As someone who does the tech 9-5, I've found it difficult to make small talk/form deeper relationships with people outside of tech. Conversations often tend to die off after the initial "What do you do? Oh that's cool..." or "About that weather we've been having..." Any tips on expanding your network outside of tech?
The 3 P's mentioned by the author are some of the most classic human pit falls into mental paralysis.<p>>1. Personalization – the believe that we are at fault. This is the lesson that not everything that happens to us happens because of us.<p>"Small-minded people blame others. Average people blame themselves. The wise see all blame as foolishness."<p>-Epictetus<p>>2. Pervasiveness – the belief that an event will affect all areas of your life<p>"Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for ways to nurture your dream."<p>-Lao Tzu<p>>3. Permanence – the belief that the sorrow will last forever<p>"A student went to his meditation teacher and said, “My meditation is horrible! I feel so distracted, or my legs ache, or I’m constantly falling asleep. It’s just horrible!”<p>“It will pass,” the teacher said matter-of-factly.<p>A week later, the student came back to his teacher. “My meditation is wonderful! I feel so aware, so peaceful, so alive! It’s just wonderful!”<p>“It will pass,” the teacher replied matter-of-factly."<p>-old Zen tale
If you have depression combined with ADD, OCD, Autism or ME/CFS, then you might want to look up "methylation" on the internet. Genetic testing can show if you have a defect in your methylation pathways, which can lead to these disorders, and to depression.<p>Good starting point: <a href="http://geneticgenie.org/" rel="nofollow">http://geneticgenie.org/</a><p>They even have an implementation of methylation analysis on this website.
Living for your dream isn't a walk in the park, so it's important to build up a network of people you trust and can talk to. Anyone that wants to talk about entrepreneurship, building, whatever and depression just hit me up online or available for coffee whenever in SF. Contact info in my profile. Reach out. :)
It is quite a coincidence that this topic popped up on HN. On my way into work this morning, I was listening to This American Life, in particular act 2 of this episode [0]. It basically follows the awkwardness of two dads trying to form a friendship in Austin.<p>I was thinking why is it so hard for one man to form a friendship with another. Personally, I have found it difficult to form a friendship with other men outside of work or of school. Now that I am about to turn 46yrs old, I can count on one hand the number of guys I can consider a good friend. The rest are either workmates or schoolmates.<p>Social contact is not the silver bullet to depression, but I believe that it helps a lot.<p>[0] - <a href="http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/587/the-perils-of-intimacy" rel="nofollow">http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/587/t...</a>
>Personalization – the believe that we are at fault<p>Yes, guilt is the means by which so much bad stuff gets installed in our minds. Ideas that get passed easily from mind to mind regardless of truth content are called <i>memes</i>. I propose the term <i>remes</i> for ideas that get <i>recalled</i> easily in an individual's mind. These get rehearsed more frequently than other ideas regardless of their truth content and so they persist; they achieve this by generating guilt.
I agree with the sentiment, but this whole Change Through Piecemeal concept for these sorts of things cab be discussed so much more breadth. Let's talk about mental health with a focus on distancing the concept of 'othering' from our heuristics instead, please.