>Had I misjudged this conference? Maybe men weren’t actually welcome to attend? Maybe the fact that I got a ticket was a mistake, and now all the women were looking at me wondering what tricks I had pulled to get in?<p>That's where I got the spark. This article <i>really</i> puts it into perspective for me.
Cool article, definitely opened up the ways how a minority at an event can easily feel recluded from other participants.<p>Not sure what to take from it though as I feel the problem is an eternal one, having roots in the classic "Tyranny of the majority"
This guy did it wrong. Basic failure to understand social flows. Outsider in a large group? Your first job is to find someone with some status in the inside group and befriend them. Find a girl the other girls seem to respect and make friends with her. Now you're no longer at the mercy of strangers--you have a crew. This also will calm your mamallian brain, as you'll feel your own status in the group rising. You also want to stand up for yourself from that start. That water bottle hassle? Just got alphad, as far as your brain is concerned. You have to manage your own psychology to succeed in these kinds of things.