In either the day-to-day or 'team-building' events, does anyone have office cultures with a consciously positive attitude to 'shy' people?<p>I think the whole subtext and title of this article shows the ignorant extrovert's problem. The article is judging whether the extroverts should bestow their social acceptance on the introvert.<p>Just because you are the only one talking does not mean there's nothing more to be said. And just because you are talking does not mean there is anything to be said.<p>On the flipside, are there cultures that have disdain for unbridled extroversion and gossip? North America seems to revel in both those things but the biggest hits to company morale I've seen have always been from the 'outgoing' spreading their negativity through multiple separate conversations or steering meetings on downward spiral narratives.
As someone who has been shy his whole life, I'm becoming wary of these type of "shyness is a positive" and "introvert advantage" type articles (although to be clear, shyness and introversion are absolutely not the same thing).<p>Being shy sucks, and I'm sick of attempts to sugar coat it. No matter how many ideas I may come up with in deep episodes of thought on my own, if I'm unable or unwilling to share them and convince others of their merits, they're lost in the loneliness of my own mind.
Oh, I never knew that shy people bottle up so much repressed animosity towards the 'extroverts'. Whole thread is filled with wild generalizations about vapid, hollow, loud 'normies'. This is a bit ridiculous, come on - we should strive for a level of discourse that goes beyond 4chan-like lamentation about alpha-males taking all the good things for themselves.
Shy men can be quite attractive for women who want to take initiative in dating. Or for the ones who want to test short relationships.<p>I used to believe only men could do that kind of stuff, felt surprised, also felt some decent amount of hypocrisy and rejection from her part.<p>In my view, women still have a lot to learn when it comes to taking initiative in dating. I've managed several times to be outgoing enough, to fake a sufficient amount of extroversion, but still be authentic.<p>I don't know what I wanted to write next, but I just finish posting this comment.
> But shyness can also be, Moran argues, a great gift, its impulse toward introversion allowing for the inventive thinking and creative genius that might elude the more talkatively inclined.<p>Bullshit false dichotomy. Introversion has nothing to do with creativity. This is just a passive-aggressive jab towards healthy people that some introverts use to excuse not taking care of their depression.