A popular "Ask HN" was posted recently, that asked how to find a wife[1].<p>Suppose you have found someone. When do you know it's the right time to get married?<p>[1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14332698
Step 1: If your girlfriend is also your best friend then move to step 2.<p>Step 2: if you both want kids then move to step 3.<p>Step 3: If you want to protect your assests against your best friend with whom you want to build a family, go ahead and setup a prenup. Though, you might get stuck at that step because you'd put your money or your career first then your wife (best friend and mother of your kids) second. Why not? It's totally possible. Thought, I would NOT recommend a marriage in this case because it doesn't make any sense.<p>Step 4: let's say you skipped step 3 and made it to step 4. At this stage, you can pop the question, it makes sense.<p>Congrats.
Her love for me and she didn't go away when I told her I battled psychological disorder (anxiety and depression) in the past. She was the person I could talk any topic with her and she was always on the money with her insightful advice. And she didn't drink alcohol, nor smoke, which is hard to find around here. She was religous and sang in church choir. Since I had a lot of bad experiances with girls in the past, mostly on my part, when I met her I told myself, this time go slow but smart. And it's been best last 7 yrs of my life. We are married for 2 years and when we felt we matured enough to take full responsibility over our lives that was the decision moment to get married.
He didn't run away when he saw I was reading a nerdy book. Instead, he approached me. Is that your book? He liked my brain.<p>I knew it was time to get married about a week after we met. Everyone else paled in comparison. It took another 6 months to make it official - but I was really married in my own mind after that first week together.
Awesome article on this very topic. <a href="http://waitbutwhy.com/2016/09/marriage-decision.html" rel="nofollow">http://waitbutwhy.com/2016/09/marriage-decision.html</a>
jaredhansen[0] posted a great response[1] to this question awhile back.<p>[0] <a href="https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=jaredhansen" rel="nofollow">https://news.ycombinator.com/user?id=jaredhansen</a><p>[1] <a href="https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=13972765" rel="nofollow">https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=13972765</a>
If you need to ask, I can only advise you to read the cohabitation laws that apply where you live. You may already be "married" but only for the downsides.
The fun and beautiful is what drew me in. As I got to know the rest of her (smart, good head on her shoulders, confident, compassionate) it became a no brainer.
I had had two fairly good long term relationships before, both of which ended abruptly, The first time, I got kicked out, the second, I initiated the breakup. I said to my self, "the next one that comes along is going to be the one". I was playing guitar in a cheap bar one night and a friend's friend walked in with her friend. As they walked in, through the smoky, bleary light, that girl turned and smiled at me. End of story.