I know that there's a few people who disagree with the article but I found it hit close to home.<p>I'm a young(ish) guy that's tall, fit and has a great career that pays well. On a (superficial level at least) I have a lot going for me in attracting women.<p>Yet I have no interest in pursuing sex or relationships.<p>Why would I bother going out and attempt to have conversations with women who have nothing in common with me.<p>Why have a relationship with a woman when it's taxing physically, mentally and emotionally?<p>There's so many other things I can do with my time that is much easier and more rewarding.<p>---<p>After writing this I can't help but feel that my experience of relationships isn't typical.<p>Does anyone agree or disagree with me?
You should prepare to roll your eyes after the first page break. Once the author starts speculating on the cause it turns into an articulate old-man rant about kids these days.<p>"Those darn cellular-telephones, porn-ography, unwed couples, and consent. Back in my day we didn't have consent and we liked it!"<p>Don't get me wrong, the article is well written and cited, but it seems to be suffering from the fallacy of trying to draw conclusions based on things that you can easily get statistics on rather than admitting that you can't boil down human relationships into a few vectors. I'm prepared to have my experience challenged but I can't imagine any young adult thinking this analysis is anything but funny.
Getting to intimately know people you believe you have nothing in common with can be an amazing, transforming experience. It's one of the ways to grow as a person.
Dude, when I moved to the US from India, I thought every guy in the US had a GF and was getting it regularly. Boy, was I in for a surprise. May be it's all the media/TV/Movies that made me think like that.<p>At least in SF, I see a lot of single men. I myself have been finding dating hard here (may be because I'm a foreigner), which translates to pretty irregular sex, but my friends in South East Asia are getting laid pretty regularly.
My first thought about anything like this... Quality of the data set...<p>This is based on self-reported data. Is it not also worth asking if it has become more socially acceptable to admit to having sex less often (or not at all)?<p>Just as it probably has become more socially acceptable to not be in a relationship...