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Ask HN: Recruiters asking personal questions at job interviews, I'm fed up

4 pointsby grover_hartmannabout 7 years ago
I&#x27;ll try to keep this short.<p>Basically, I had a job interview 2 days ago at some startup, I&#x27;m a self-taught programmer with over 20 years of work experience.<p>I&#x27;ve been working for several startups in the last 10 years and made significant contributions to high profile open source projects so I have a reasonably good working history.<p>2 days ago I had this interview with a female recruiter&#x2F;psychologist and the first thing she asked me was &quot;What&#x27;s your nationality?&quot; with a sarcastic smile.<p>I responded, and while I was expressing myself I got some funny looks from her that I thought was humiliating&#x2F;condescending.<p>I even saw she was talking with the employees and I know she was talking about me because I saw her stare me and they were laughing.<p>I thought it was maybe because I&#x27;m from a different country or because I don&#x27;t have a very good accent (I struggle with my speaking sometimes), but I hate when I&#x27;m being treated differently.<p>She also asked me about my education&#x2F;training, I said &quot;self taught&quot; followed by her saying &quot;Oh, so you are self taught. Uhmm...&quot; and I had to explain myself that it was never a problem.<p>I explained that I tried to apply for university in the country I currently reside but that immigrants are not allowed to enter the public university by law, even after me taking the exams and passing them.<p>She explained that the market would take me more seriously if I had a degree, I thought &quot;maybe she is right&quot; but I think it&#x27;s rude not to consider someone for their skills and experience.<p>Anyway, maybe I&#x27;m paranoid or something but I always observe the same patterns at job interviews, do I really have to tell you my nationality, age, education, marital status, economic status, where I meet my wife, if I have children, if I smoke weed, etc?<p>Is it reasonable if I can keep some of these things to myself?<p>As a recruiter, do you ever think about how the person being interviewed feels like when you are being so disrespectful?<p>Do you think that your startup is so special that you feel entitled to ask all sort of personal questions?<p>I don&#x27;t think these things have anything to do with the job at all, and I feel they always use one information or another against you.<p>Just because you live a normal life and you went to college and your job is being a recruiter for some startup doesn&#x27;t give you the right to be disrespectful to others. I didn&#x27;t had to do any of these things and I&#x27;m sitting here right in front of you, have you ever thought about that?<p>I don&#x27;t think it&#x27;s fair and honestly, I&#x27;m really fed up of playing this game.<p>I&#x27;m not interested about climbing your corporate ladder, I just want to get work done.<p>Feel free to share your stories if you feel like, I&#x27;d appreciate any advice and sorry about the rant.

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hnzixabout 7 years ago
I used to get annoyed in these situations but now I think it&#x27;s a good thing. If the interview is that fucking horrid, the company culture is almost certainly going to suck.<p>Thanks shitty interviewer for saving me from your shitty company.
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exabrialabout 7 years ago
It&#x27;s illegal for them to ask you that question, but I&#x27;m saying states it&#x27;s also illegal to not have a perfect balance of races employed. As a direct result, you can expect targeted hiring based on race :&#x2F;
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