About the protagonist - <a href="http://m.legacy.com/obituaries/nytimes/obituary.aspx?n=ari-j-diaconis&pid=188045892&referrer=0&preview=false" rel="nofollow">http://m.legacy.com/obituaries/nytimes/obituary.aspx?n=ari-j...</a>
Interesting to compare/contrast this story with Richard Feynman's first marriage.<p>Here author Ari Diaconis chooses NOT to marry Dunia Rkein due to his illness, uncertain survival prospect, and not wanting to burden her with his long-term care (if he survived)<p>Compare to Feynman, who married Arline Greenbaum despite the fact that she had severe tuberculosis and only a slim chance to survive.<p>Similar, but different. (Of course)<p>I wonder, is it better to never marry, or to lose the spouse shortly afterward? Is it easier or harder depending on the gender of the survivor (in our era, not the 1940s)?
As someone with long term health conditions, it hangs in the back of your mind. I'm fortunate enough not to have to call mine "chronic", and I may (probably will) be blessed by the results of research from over a decade...<p>But it haunts me in every relationship I have, even if it's irrational.