Hi all, I'm looking for resources on how to learn to become funny at conversation.<p>Any books, thoughts, blog posts, ideas, videos, etc, are welcome.<p>Hopefully language agnostic since I'm a native spanish speaker.<p>What has worked for you?
"Dying is easy. Comedy is difficult."<p>"If you don't have a sense of humor, don't try to be funny."<p>If you just want to be good at conversation and social stuff, get a copy of "How to Win Friends and Influence People" <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People" rel="nofollow">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influen...</a><p>It's cheesy but it works.<p>That said, if you are really after being funny, then know that <i>the essense of comedy is timing</i>. Being funny is more like dancing than acting, say. Good news is it's a skill and unless you're hopeless you can practice and learn it. Get yourself a copy of Ol' Asimov's "Treasury of Humor" and just tell people jokes and practice your timing and delivery. Good luck! It's wonderful to make people laugh!<p><a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isaac_Asimov%27s_Treasury_of_Humor" rel="nofollow">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isaac_Asimov%27s_Treasury_of_H...</a>
0. Have more conversations with more groups of people.<p>1. Notice the things that make you laugh or you find witty in conversations. Keep a journal if necessary.<p>2. Steal liberally.* If the comments are highly situational, think of ways to generalize, or imagine similar situations where you could use similar material.*<p>3. Focus on people's reactions when you tell those stolen jokes.<p>4. Once you can get a reaction with tested material, branch out to variations and introduce your own material. (Don't stick with joke theft forever, just use it as a transition, so you can isolate other things to work on.)<p>* (2) probably requires multiple distinct social groups. Even in the same group, you can get away with this with a little hat tip, like, "It's like that time when John said X..." Or if you build from that into storytelling--everyone likes hearing stories about times they said or did interesting things--so you'll have a sympathetic audience while you practice some timing and rhythm.
Hang out with people that are funnier than you... If you don't know any people that are funnier than you, then go to comedy clubs on amateur nights. If you go on a night when a professional comedian is performing, while he might be funny, chances are you won't be able to meet him or hang out with him afterwards. On amateur nights, you should be able to meet everyone afterwards. Find the funny amateurs, meet them, ask to hang out with them, and their humor will eventually rub off on you... You could try Improv classes too, as suggested by another poster.
I did a course in script writing for film and TV. There was a considerable amount of work on how to structure for comedy. The best part of the course was that homework was to watch TV, comedy shows in particular and de-construct them.<p>The key to being funny is to be aware, notice things and see the unexpected, etc. The funniest material is adapted from real-life events with a sprinkling of whimsy added. Telling jokes is very much about engagement and timing.