I realise the horror that some might get from reading this - but I don't entirely understand it.<p>What I see reported there appear to be smart teen girls with much more worldly knowledge/thinking than you'd imagine. These are not girls doing silly dangerous things online, they are girls lighting a few matches and dropping them before being burned.<p>We all did it, maybe not on the internet (and, yes, that introduces a new element of risk we need to take care of), but we did it.<p>Their analysis of the guys they know is absolutely spot on and very mature. They <i>understand</i>; give credit for that :)<p>The second half of the article is of more concern; and the real problem is simply part of a wider problem in society. It has been exacerbated recently by the internet - but it is not a new issue, and no one has really successfully addressed it yet. Just let the whole mess to get slowly worse.<p>The article also mentions <i>Skins</i>; almost as if it is part of the problem. I have no idea if they show the UK version of Skins in the US (or if it is a remake) but the original is, IMO, one of the better attempts to make these issues of sexuality accessible to teens. A lot of people watch a bit and see sexual largess and drugs, but if you really watch there is an important message there about taking experiments too far :)
The whole environment of high school has been broken for many years. We are seeing technology collide with societies gradual raising of the age of adulthood combined with a school system designed to create factory workers for Ford.<p>I'm not that old, when I was in high school ND allowed people to get a driver's license at 14. Now we have calls to raise the age to 16 or even 18. I have heard the argument "Well, 14 isn't as mature as it used to be". That is crap, and I can see the day when 21 isn't even old enough to be out on your own.<p>It isn't the technology, bullying, or sexting that is the core problem. It is the environment when society is trying very hard to repress biology and thousand of years of development. It isn't working and is causing serious problems.
It seems like NYMag knows what men want too, was there any need for them to have a picture of a model pretending to be youger than she really is on each page?<p>Was there going to be anyone reading the content thinking "so you've described this pose, but without seeing the 14 year old in question I can't really judge how bad it was"?<p>Or... was it just a nice excuse to give readers the snapshots they so badly desire.
A disturbing piece for HN parents about the coming of age for children.<p>Even though you know the Internet and technology has all progressed since we were kids, it is still disturbing nonetheless.<p>The hacking solution to help our youth is unlikely to come from 0's and 1's, but a hacker that could figure out how to address this--with 0's and 1's or otherwise--would be rewarded with more than gold and silver, they would be a hero.<p>It would be too much for a single person to figure out or a team for that matter. We could easily say that the solution is parenting, but I believe in many cases that isn't enough.<p>Our current social dynamic because of the Internet and technology combined is changing everything from bullying to coming of age to social skills and the problems have been coming to a head for years but only recently receiving so much of the spotlight, leaving it anyones guess what the future repercussions could be.
I'm 24, and my wife is pregnant with our first.<p>Reading this article blew my mind. I grew up with AIM, ICQ, MSN Chat, whatever. I had a cameraphone when I was 17. I didn't see any of this, though.<p>I'm not sure whether I'm more scared to have a girl that has to live in a world like this, or to have a boy who may be like the guys in that story. I hate both outcomes.<p>I know many will argue that pornography isn't a big deal, or that the internet hasn't changed much. But as a parent who doesn't want to raise a daughter in that kind of environment, or a son who encourages it, what can I do? What would you do?<p>Is homeschooling the answer? I don't think so. I am very interested in seeing my kids develop socially in ways that they just can't do at home. Living in a small town? I think that's worse, because there's nothing else to do besides sex, get drunk, and do drugs. Shutting off the internet in the home? Seems unrealistic, but it is necessary?<p>I know, what I'm saying probably makes me look insane to many of you. But for those who are dealing with this with their kids now, what are you seeing? What should a future-parent strive to do?
The printer-friendly link looks almost exactly like a default Readability view: <a href="http://nymag.com/print/?/news/features/70977/" rel="nofollow">http://nymag.com/print/?/news/features/70977/</a><p>I wonder if Arc90 is working with them or if they just took the good idea and reused it?
I never know what to say about stuff like this. My kids are 21 and 23 and have been online for years. They have never had issues with nude photos, bullying, and so on. It does not have to be some huge issue. It can be, but it doesn't have to be.<p>I will note that my kids were homeschooled and the bullying described in the article apparently revolved around this girl's real life social circle from school -- someone she went on an actual date with who spread rumors as a form of vengeance when she didn't put out. On homeschooling lists, there is fairly often discussion about how schools have a "lord of the flies" social dynamic. From my perspective, the incident in question is rooted in that issue, not in the internet per se.<p>I will also note that the photos in the article, which are described as re-creations of actual photos found online, all show what look to me like very upscale bedrooms that are a cluttered disaster. The settings suggest to me a home where the parents value material things overly much and try to "dote" on their kids by showering them with money and things in place of time and attention. I never had the kind of matching decor and such shown in the photos. But I did grow up with a garden out back, home-cooked meals, and parents helping me with my homework. And my bedroom never looked like the cluttered disaster depicted consistently throughout the photos. My room got cleaned and picked up.<p>My sons and I laugh at the idea of them being able to get away with some of the stunts we hear about or get into trouble without me knowing. First of all, I was there so much that I would have known what they were up to -- they couldn't have disappeared for hours on end without an explanation and no one noticing. And second of all, I didn't have rebellious teens because there was nothing to rebel against. I think that's an important detail.