This is my response to the blog post that I wrote, Mortality and Dating (<a href="http://pathdependent.com/articles/mortality-and-dating" rel="nofollow">http://pathdependent.com/articles/mortality-and-dating</a>). It was oddly popular on HN, so I'm submitting the follow up. Although the situation is not very common, I think a lot of people on here make the same mistakes for different reasons.
My experience with a life-threatening medical condition and "love" was very different from yours. I went through a period where I allowed men into my life that I normally wouldn't have given the time of day to because I had no idea how long I would live. I lowered my standards and it caused me to get to know people I wouldn't have otherwise known. Those relationships eventually fell by the wayside but not without first opening my eyes, my mind and my heart. I'm currently alone and I do plan on getting myself adequately healthy first before I will pursue physical intimacy (for me, it is the only sane thing as my medical situation is different from yours) but I am not rejecting of love. I suppose I won't quite know what to do when the time comes, for quite a lot of reasons, but I'm not terribly worried about it. I'm also okay with being alone if that is the only way to stay healthy but I'm not convinced that will always be true.<p>Peace and best wishes.