I had the same nearly the same situation, like 70% to 80% of the sandwich kid mentioned in the beginning.<p>Its impossible to read a summary of what have happened with me, because it would be so long that I would never end.<p>A short summary of the beginning would be something like this:
I just never accepted anything coming from adults, teachers. I saw when they said something to me, than the next second do the very opposite. And I realized that when my parents divorced, that everything that I learned from them needs to be erased. They could not tell why they divorced, a specific reason. Because it never really is about one thing from what I can tell now. It was not something I come up with, it was more like a realization, hard truth, something that hit me hard, or something around these lines.
And then I just proceeded to build up a mental image about the world from the ground up. I guess we all do that while growing up, but I really just couldn't accept anything anyone told me to do, or think the way they want me to.<p>Cant say that I 'am a very successful person. Sometimes I can be spot on, even on very large scale questions, using my own version of the world. I was able to make a really good investment choice, when everyone was shitting themselves, and running around like a beheaded chicken that the world was about to end. 2008 financial crisis and Covid. (I was in 7th grade in 2008 with really shitty grades)
And sometimes I miss by a mile, usually when around topics where feelings must be involved. That is the part that I am trying to get better since I've realized.<p>I think its more about some things can make you or brake you. Resilience is understanding the real reasons why something happened. Like someone got angry at work when I asked him to send some documents for me. If the person is rude and got, to some extent angry at me, than I could translate that as that person not liking me, or that the person has some difficulties at home. In the first choice we could grind on about why is that, what have I done wrong, where in the other, you just move on. At least in my experience.