Did I misread this, or is there no real data presented whatsoever? There are a few anecdotes and that's it.<p>Slate used to have a series called "bogus trend stories," and this feels like a bogus trend story: <a href="https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2010/08/bogus-trend-stories-of-the-week-pieces-about-cuckolding-cemetery-real-estate-plagiarism-and-infanticide.html" rel="nofollow">https://slate.com/news-and-politics/2010/08/bogus-trend-stor...</a>
The whole point about not kink -shaming is that it's OK to have kinks <i>so long as</i> it's between you and other consenting individuals. Nowhere is it suggested that it is OK to use this in order to perpetrate abuse onto other people. Everyone is expected to act with restraint, set clear boundaries and stop if their partner(s) ask them to.
This reads much like the musings of some of the religious fundamentalists I grew up around in my town. They purport that their way is the mainstream or "coming/silent majority", then shame anyone who falls outside their sexist and dehumanizing beliefs. They seek to make those people feel small and outcasted, thereby fulfilling their false beliefs in their own eyes. It's sad that someone could write something as sexist as she has, and not have even a shred of self-awareness about the irony of it.
There's a difference between the upper strata of society rediscovering Puritanism and a counterrevolution. Revolutions require means to enforce norms. If we have seen one thing it is that there is no means any more by which elite can force a discourse on the population at large.<p>In the same sense how old fashioned aristocrats used to live by suffocating norms I guess we now get the techbro version of the same thing but ordinary people will not throw Tinder away because Ivy league graduates adopt the values of Victorian England.<p>Revolutions always require a certain amount of energy and momentum in society which we don't have. You can see it with the other sort of old-fashioned ruling class attitudes that even progressive, liberal, elites have rediscovered. Veganism, exercise, obsession with health etc, it hasn't really percolated down much.<p>Case in point, the author of the article who I happen to follow on twitter also just retweeted this:<p><a href="https://twitter.com/BuzzFeedNews/status/1395792792945844227?s=20" rel="nofollow">https://twitter.com/BuzzFeedNews/status/1395792792945844227?...</a>
"Reject Modernity, Embrace Tradition" -a popular meme<p>Sexual counter-revolutionaries targeting "commercial sexual exploitation" will fail. Just as the Meese Commission in the 1980s failed to combat the mainstreaming of content that deviated from "community standards". It just moved to VHS. And will further move to IPFS & privacy preserving crypto coins.<p>I see the prohibition of regulated sex work falling in a similar vein to cannabis & psychedelics. Expect to see large investments from Founders Fund or A16Z. Even a YC style incubator for sex tech coming soon.
Hippie concept of "free love" was taking us back to prehistorical times, when humans were just like animals: fucking, sleeping, eating, and not much else in between. It's a good thing that current generation is reverting to more sophisticated behaviors.
> Charlotte and Narayan are not the uptight fundamentalists or ugly, embittered feminists of stereotype: they’re members of the Ivy-educated jeunesse dorée.<p>1) In what context would a focus on sexual monogamy and a traditional marriage have been a sign of an "embittered feminist"? Neither has been a focus of any of the major American feminist movements.<p>2) When have the Ivy-educated elite not been also the uptight fundamentalists of America, at least as it pertains to everyone else's choices?<p>It's all just the usual garbage of rich people trying to elevate some social signifier more accessible to them than others as a moral virtue.