So, author, you claim to see the breakup coming. Yet, at the moment the employee gives their notice:<p>> <i>find levers to negotiate</i><p>The time during which you "see it coming", when I the employee am asking more … pointed questions, usually about the company, how its run, the team's responsibilities or work or pay etc. … <i>that</i>, that is when you have the levers to negotiate. That is when you are still the BATNA.<p>But by the time I'm giving you notice, those levers are <i>gone</i>.¹<p>I also am pretty sure the last manager I gave notice to did <i>not</i> see it coming. He had a very quizzical look when I asked for the 1-on-1 mentioned in the article. He too, tried to fight what was by then destiny.<p>¹just in case someone tries to argue "everyone has a price": yeah, I'd agree. But I've not had anyone offer it, and by that time, it's far too high because of what you'd be asking. (Me to renege on a deal, me to stick with something I'm dissatisfied with, and it'd be a "pay replacing happiness" sort of an offer, which is why it'd be costly. You've had the chance to change the "happiness" part, and usually, the demonstration has been "we're unwilling to address those grievances")<p>(Also, too often, I think, the "problems" run deeper than the authority of the direct manager has control over. My last manager was in that situation: there was very little I think he could actually <i>do</i>. And that, in itself, is a problem.)