Where do you go to meet interesting people to talk to? I find it's difficult to find the right mixture of:<p>a) A setting where it's acceptable to strike up a conversation with a stranger<p>b) A place not already geared towards a different purpose (i.e. a bar for hookups)<p>c) Filled with -- for lack of a better phrase -- people who are uninteresting to talk to. By that I mean people who aren't looking to chat, all conform to a very rote / traditional lifestyle, or generally aren't great conversationalists.
Make yourself interesting, so people want to meet you. It’s not a function of place or setting — you can start a conversation almost anywhere. It helps not to start from assumptions and judgments about how other people might “conform to a very rote/traditional lifestyle,” whatever that means, or about how great a conversationalist a stranger might be. The implication is that you consider yourself interesting, non-traditional and free from rote conformity, and a great conversationalist, which may come across to strangers as aloof, self-centered, and dismissive.<p>Common politeness generally means avoiding personal or possibly controversial topics with strangers, so you might have to invest the time to get to know someone.
Define interesting.<p>If by interesting you mean people who enjoy the same topics of conversation as you do then pick a topic.<p>Figure out what people interested in that topic do, where do they go.<p>Go there.
Everything you go to will be filled with people who are uninteresting to somebody, the best way to get around it is to choose something that will have a range of types. That will be able to provide a variation among people and have that variation of types be somewhat random.<p>take a class in some subject that is somewhat outside your comfort zone, so if you're a programmer don't take a programming class. I would recommend an art, music, or literature class. Downside, lots of uninteresting people really into those subjects can also be pretentiously annoying.<p>Other classes one can take that will also be healthy for you: Dance, cooking (maybe of some type that is not that well known or trendy will improve chances), Capoeira - has a generally gregarious culture and tends to have people who are not as much into the general martial arts stuff as others - especially Capoeira Angola.<p>However all these things probably betray my particular interests and where I might expect to find people I consider 'interesting', it's a pretty subjective quality.
Maybe most of your interactions with strangers are commercial interactions. So, invert that: become the 'host' for something related to your interests, that is free.
What are you trying to get out of these interactions, is it new friends and romantic partners or literally just the novelty of meeting a stranger?<p>Do you think at this point people might be sensing that you're bracing for boredom as you're talking to them? I don't mean to blame you but vibes are powerful and real and it takes a lot of effort to truly conceal our emotions and assumptions
They said "Great minds think alike" or "Birds of a feather flock together", my idea is to first make yourself a very interesting person. ;)<p>And don't forget to make yourself comfortable to banter and have small talks, sometimes people complain about how hard it is to make new friends, meanwhile they are super shy, not sure how they can find one tbh :(
You should be clarify your interesting people. If interesting people is the one who have the same hobby, passion so go on to the community or the offline event so you can find them<p>I think it'd will be more excited to meet random people and find out that they're interesting than you try to find them at a specific place.
Intro classes to things you’re interested in. A once a week for four-six weeks course will get you enough exposure to become friends with at least one cool person in the class.<p>Volunteering in the community you live brings a wide array of people and there’s usually downtime for talking.
Well, for people interesting to you, hang out at places you want or need to go, and simply attempt extending polite greetings a bit with a question or compliment. If you want to talk to <i>objectively</i> interesting people, well, they tend to be quite disagreeable.
Purely anecdotal, yet have worked for me:<p>-Hobby clubs. (We all have the hobby in common)<p>-Work conferences. (I work in tech so tech is always interesting.)<p>-Friend groups/activities.