I know most might think I should let it go or man up of some sort but lost currently one of my two jobs as a software dev. I am only 22 and the other job is pretty well paying so I am not in a bad financial situation, this is just an ego/confidence hit to me as in it really hurts deep inside to get fired and makes me think if software dev (especially in startups) is what I should be doing? The fact of telling my SO/family about it even makes me shake, even though its really no big deal. I always have this pressure of being best at what I do.
Your friends and family won't judge you poorly for this. Don't worry.<p>Early in my career I lost a job at a startup and it also shook me up. I say "lost" because I asked if I was fired or laid off and they said I could call it whatever I wanted lol.<p>But yeah, basically, the head of the company had an inhuman work ethic and expected the same from his employees. I got in trouble for leaving work at 10pm on a Friday. I got in trouble for coming in late on the weekend because I was doing laundry. I got in trouble for spending time with my friends on my birthday (on a Saturday).<p>Basically, startups can be extremely unprofessional so if you get fired by a startup, it's no big deal.
Most of the good software devs I know actually only have one job, so sounds like you're back to the baseline. But who knows, keep applying and maybe you can push 4/5+ jobs at once, which would obviously mean you're 4/5 times better than most software devs. Good luck.
I had two jobs when I was 23 for 3+ years. One was a large company and the other at a startup. The startup flamed out. Looking back on those days, I realize that I burnt out from the over-work.<p>You could look at your situation as an opportunity to develop a broader range of interests other than just work. Come clean with your SO/family. Keeping it bottled up only makes it worse for yourself. Ease off the pressure on yourself.
You are far, far more than just your ego. There is a vast world to explore, and fear is holding you back!<p>I thought of sending you links to read and watch, but if you want them, you’ll have to allow your curiosity overcome your fear and reach out to me (@maxharris9) on Twitter.
Sorry about that, but if you need something related to laugh at:<p><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUJ46Rnh2K8" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUJ46Rnh2K8</a>