Suster is playing catch with a bottle of nitroglycerin and doesn't see the danger.<p>It's DANGEROUS. I know: She DIED.<p>Warm advice to all concerned, girls, women, fathers, husbands, etc.:<p>Take it easy. Don't push it. At the first sign of problems, BACK UP.<p>Yes, there is an E. Fromm statement:<p>"Men and women deserve equal respect as persons but are not the same."<p>He continues with an explanation: During the French Revolution, Western Civilization got the idea that any difference was a threat of injustice and, thus, worked to eliminate as many differences as possible.<p>But, I warn you and urge you to assume:<p>Mother Nature was there long, long before Mark Suster, feminism, etc. and has deep defenses we do not want to encounter.<p>Or in simple terms, women who were really good at what men were good at are mostly not our ancestors.<p>What was good for Mark Suster's mother and Fred Wilson's wife and some other women I can list need NOT hold for your sister, wife, or daughter.<p>If your wife wants to spend time with your daughter talking and reading about people, being sensitive, sympathetic, and empathetic, trying hard to fit in and get praise, acceptance, and approval, building emotional intelligence, etc. and your daughter wants to play with dolls, help her mother with 'women's work', have vicarious emotional experiences reading stories about people, be pretty, meek, and sweet and avoid technical and mechanical topics, football, baseball, and basketball, then LET IT BE.<p>If she wants to major in art history, performing arts, theater, literature, the psychology and sociology of child development, etc. instead of mathematics, physical science, engineering, or business, then encourage her in her wishes and let it be.<p>Sure, she is likely on a path to a career with low pay and will need a good husband to take care of her. Right. Sorry 'bout that.<p>But, trust me, that's better than having her pursue some direction in 'men's work' where she keeps failing and finally dies trying.<p>It's not nice to try to fool Mother Nature. Warning: Don't try.<p>The goals of feminism and 'equality' go way back. There has long been 'tension' there. Don't expect the tension to go away. But, still, don't assume that the goals of feminism and 'equality' are available for your sister, wife, or daughter.<p>The assumption that women are just like men and can do just what men do except for the most obvious physiological differences just represents a potentially fatal lack of understanding about women. Sorry 'bout that.<p>In particular, in much of K-12, the girls, especially when the teachers are women, in academic performance commonly knock the socks off the boys. And in some fields in college, the young women retain some strong advantages over young men. But do not assume that even the very best performances in K-12 and college, e.g., Valedictorian, 'summa cum laude', PBK, mean that she can, of course, be 'equal' doing 'men's work' in the world of work. The real situation is MUCH more complicated than that.<p>If she wants to try, okay. But if there are problems, fairly quickly just assume that Mother Nature is getting her way and BACK UP.