Nope! As long there is anonymity of the users (.. even if the names are known) and the way it is presented to the users stays same, that long it won't be fixable.<p>One thing is the man searching.<p>By nature, we men are sexually aroused by vision and phantasma/movies/imagination with especially the latter one being selfamplifying.<p>So if you have a online dating website and the participants present them with only standing pictures and some bio and you have a chat by means of communication, the imagination will kick in.<p>One doesn't know and see what feelings the receiver have towards the written. Also, the answers can be misinterpreted by both sender and receiver. Resulting in even more arousment.<p>But, being aroused, our main brain shows DoS. So..<p>It won't be fixable as long there are men. Woman are differently aroused. Man2man and woman2woman works well, because same understanding.
You can't really fix online dating because you can't really change human nature. Men want what they want and women want what they want and nothing changes that.<p>You can of course meet somebody decent online with enough persistence, especially in a big city with a constant pool of new people, but the way things work online is bad for almost everybody except the very best looking men, who are able to use these apps to easily sleep with a constant pool of new women.<p>The best advice is to probably go hang out where women you want to meet hang out. Meet people in real life.<p>Go to bookstores. Do some volunteer work. Play in a coed sports league. Go to church.
I think it might be worth specifying what you feel needs to be fixed exactly. I can think of many problems with both online and offline dating, but I guess you have something specific in mind?<p>I met my boyfriend of 4 years through an app, and in general it was a pretty smooth process in my admittedly limited experience.
The issue is the incentives are to string along those who are willing to pay (usually men due to the supply-demand situation) for revenue.<p>Also there are just so many bots now, I've found the bots to be the main reason I stopped using the apps as it just keeps getting worse - trying to sell crypto, or advertise an OnlyFans or Instagram account, etc.<p>That's a hard problem to solve too, without tying it to digital national ID (where available), and there's no incentive to solve it since it bumps up the profile numbers.
In my experience you need three conditions to make online dating successful as a guy.<p>1. Location (medium to large city)<p>2. Great pictures<p>3. Moderate texting ability and confidence (easiest one)<p>If you have all those and it isn’t working then you’re probably not likely to have success online dating. It’s too superficial you can’t stand out.<p>If that’s you it can make a huge difference approaching girls in the real world. You automatically standout just by doing that since guys now all just wanna do online dating and are afraid to.<p>Whatever you do don’t stress yourself out over unsuccessfully online dating and becoming obsessed with it. I’ve seen guys determine their sexual value solely through online dating which is nonsensical. As soon as you start talking to someone in the real world there are at least a dozen more avenues which you have to showcase yourself.<p>Just compare it to a job interview conducted through text and a face to face interview.
I think the problem is going from completely anonymous to a date. You could be putting yourself in a really vulnerable position with a rando. There's really no proof this person is not a psychopath, to put it bluntly.<p>In social groups, there's at least some social proof of this other person is likely safe. You know them by reputation. You may even be introduced to them or someone vouched for them.<p>IMO, for this reason, things like meetup groups, or other IRL social groups, with some level of group norms, where relationships can develop organically (into friendships, or whatever), with really no expectation of dating are probably the most appropriate. I met my wife in a local hiking group. It was its own social circle, and we went on trips together. Some people dated. Some people became friends, etc...<p>So, I guess, no there's no way to fix online dating :) unless you can solve the underlying social proof problem that develops more organically IRL settings.
Online dating is a heaven for women. Unlimited number of guys that message them, to choose from.<p>For men, it works for the top 10%. The remaining are left to scrap around.<p>Boils down to looks in top 3 pictures.