Owning it is a great way to go, but has its own problems.<p>As you say, if you've been prone to externalising everything then
suddenly it's a wonderful release. It's empowering to realise you have
more agency and influence than maybe you thought.<p>Jocko Willink's outlook of "extreme ownership" is something that
resonates with me.<p>But beware omnipotence, or worse solipsism. The opposite extreme, of
believing that you're the only one who is truly responsible, is a
dangerous pathology too.<p>Somewhere in the middle ground is the idea that it's all about
interpersonal interactions; certain people, who make certain kinds of
choices and hold certain world-views, are to be engaged with or
avoided. It's not that they or you have faults, it's just you
shouldn't hang out because your <i>relational</i> compatibility is wrong.