I have been asking this question to myself, and from my past experience all of the managers/leadership I have worked with have a survival mode. They basically do things that protect themselves from getting replaced, or make themselves to be a control point of the team. Why is that?<p>My current manager does these things that irks me a lot -<p>1. Every 1:1 starts with a small negative thing about you, and mentions that its only vocal feedback saying they are on my side and won't write it in performance review.<p>2. For every conversation with customers or partner teams, insert themselves saying <nullecksor> will help you on this. Sometimes even after my correspondence.<p>3. Call you a lead/critical SME of the team, but never acknowledge it in writing, or in any forums.<p>4. Recently - make critical decision in 1-1s and just convey the understanding to you in your 1-1 instead of talking/making decision in team meetings. I feel like all the conflicts and incorrect decisions to resolve are under the carpet somewhere.<p>Are these good traits of a manager, or am I imagining something?