Nope, it almost certainly won't. If you want to make friends and meet a partner you need to join groups. Pick ones where you will see the same people regularly and make a lot of small talk. Small talk is where the magic happens, so have some hobbies and interesting stories to contribute. You gotta practice, that's the only way it gets easier.<p>I fully acknowledge society makes it hard, and it won't happen for you unless you make it. Join a coed sports team or start going to the same trivia night every week. The rest kind of figures itself out.
There’s a follow-up article to be created here about the modern obsession with comfort/convenience/never feeling challenged or really any negative emotion ever, and generative AI’s interaction with that.
Love Scott’s blog and respect his research and science communication efforts. I also think his political outspokenness is important and refreshing, regardless of whether you happen to agree with the guy.<p>But this was difficult to read, and imho way off the mark. Socially awkward people are very likely to go through life getting called a robot anyway, so I don’t think it’s very helpful to direct them towards robot therapists or robot girlfriends.
What helped me was spending time in groups where I was in the gender minority and also making female friends I wasn't interested in dating. If you're not just looking for sex, it helps to learn a bit of what it's like to be a woman and you're more likely to get that exposure in a space where women feel comfortable. I might be biased because I realized I related to women more than men and transitioned but I see so many sad guys that would make good boyfriends if they got a little more experience being around women.
You know what actually helps? Meeting people, going on dates, not being a creepy mofo and actually having something to talk about.<p>That dialogue is worse than an anime pillow humping discord moderator.
“Can retreating ever inward, pioneering new and more complete ways of irrevocably shedding any vestiges of human contact that simultaneously engender heretofore unseen levels of emotional dependence on a sterile, unfeeling, monthly subscription based phantom in a screen help with dating? Can forgetting humanity so thoroughly that we can only be comforted by the chatbot shaped absence of it help us to find love?” is so funny.<p>I was trying to figure out why this is so silly to me and I realized that it’s because this is the plot to American Pie. Like, my man you’re doing a serious thought experiment version of pondering whether Jason Biggs’ character learned cool sex tricks by sticking his penis into the pie and if we could all learn cool sex tricks by fucking pies too. The answer was no, they named the whole movie after that scene because that idea was so stupid that every audience would see the comedy in how incredibly dumb of an idea that was
"Since 2015, depressed, isolated, romantically unsuccessful nerdy young guys have regularly been emailing me, asking me for sympathy, support, or even dating advice."<p>You can be a bit of a well meaning dick (for the US or wanker for en_*), or you can do the right thing.<p>You do not paint "them" as you have done already. That's not helpful and can only be noted as "victim kicking".<p>You should point them towards people or organisations that can help or do or say nothing which is better than being unintentionally sarcastically unpleasant.<p>I am a fan of Scott A and will continue to be but this blog is not the best.<p>Knowing when to say nothing is just as important as saying something.
I’ve been married for 15 years so I couldn’t even fake a dating conversation. This is the best I could do with using GPT to simulate a casual business dinner.<p>I could see it helping me practice small talk if I were dating.<p><a href="https://chatgpt.com/share/680acde9-e458-8010-b6f2-33c970a9467c" rel="nofollow">https://chatgpt.com/share/680acde9-e458-8010-b6f2-33c970a946...</a><p>For what it’s worth: I was naturally an introvert before I got into consulting five years ago. I had to learn how to do small talk and listen for cues.<p>Footnote #2: “CloudSync” is not a real company as far as I know.
Lol "could". In my group of friends, one woman runs texts to and from her boyfriend through ChatGPT to analyze what he really says and means, and then she types out the unhinged (her word, not mine) response she would have sent and then she uses it to edit her response so she's not "that crazy chick" (again, her words).<p>The example conversation does suggest a chat UI where you could rewind and try saying something different and see how it would play out differently would be quite useful for this sort of thing.
This post makes me pretty sad, dog.<p>This is not a simulation of a date. It's an interaction with an automated customer service representative. It's someone trying to game out how to be vulnerable and connect with somebody else by volleying stiff dialogue off Samantha Samsung. The idea that this is a "near miss" strains credulity.<p>I'm getting in a car with my spouse and driving into the hills.
This idea that retreating more and more into virtual worlds is going to help with interactions with actual humans in the real world is pure tech-land insanity.<p>For some reason a lot of tech people have a problem accepting that the solution to problems largely caused by tech isn't more tech. If you want to be better at interacting with people, go touch grass and interact with more people in the real, physical world.
Worst idea ever, tech is what killed dating imo.<p>You don't write requirement specs for partners, because it's evil and because you have no idea what your perfect partner is going to be like until you meet them.
Sorry, absolutely off topic, but I just realised that you've never seen Scott Aaronson and Dario Amodei together in the same room, and for a good reason.
No. Betteridge's law. More seriously, while this piece is ancient in AI terms (May 2023), I don't think genuine emotional and social intelligence is something that can be learned at an average level by talking to AI or reading. Using the voice models is a step up from this, but I still think they're too tuned to following your instructions without nuance for something like this. If reading was enough to pick up social and emotional skills, I'd think that people who read the right books would be masters at several trades if it gave even 10% of the experience that real world practice did.<p>I'm also not trying to be reactionary and dismissive, but how are you supposed to learn social cues from AI right now? In an optimal case, the LLM predicts accurately what would happen. Maybe you could say something awkward and the AI would say back <s/he lets out an exasperated sigh and turns away>; but in real life you have to notice these cues among a barrage of other factors. Would this really help anyone who is this desperate? Additionally, the tone of how you say words matters almost as much as the content, and this is missing from text.<p>I concede that in extreme cases, some people could learn stuff from trying this, and that's a good thing. I just don't really know how much, who exactly, how, and whether they'd learn incorrect stuff as well.
Most LLMs give very lengthy responses compared to user input and can carry a conversation on their own. They're too easy.<p>The winning dating sim for social anxiety will program a Dark Souls-level of difficulty dating sim in which the person is standoffish, hateful, and unstable, constantly rejecting you for social rules you don't understand.<p>I don't know if that'll be good for society but incels will play it.