Hi HN,
I'm building my first startup, and I have been amazed that every good thing that happened so far, we really had to work hard for. That's not surprising per se, but I was really expecting some breaks here and there. Maybe those are yet to come. Was it always hard from the get go, or does it get better?
I disagree with the other folks on this page that say that life is suffering and life in five years will be more suffering. That directly contradicts my experience. In many ways my business(es?) are the easiest job(s) I've ever had, and while six years into it I occasionally have a bad day (ask me about Thursday -- still recovering), things are in general on the up and up.<p>With regards to catching breaks: have you ever heard the phrase "overnight success in only X years"? That characterizes a lot of the breaks which I've personally experienced or had related to me by other people. You sometimes have oh-my-goodness-that's-absolutely-unbelievable-you-are-so-lucky happen to you, but that luck often closely resembles the predictable effects of crystallized hard work.
God, yes. Things get <i>much</i> easier.<p>A certain class of startup-building problems gets way easier as you grow and can afford to hire specialized resources.<p>Get to the point where you can hire a good finance person? Things just got way easier.<p>Get to the point where you can hire a dedicated HR person? Things just got way easier.<p>Get to the point where you can hire a dedicated office manager? Things just got way easier.<p>Get to the point where you can hire a personal assistant? Thing just got way easier.<p>Beyond that, your life gets way easier psychologically as you start to achieve some success.<p>Your family and friends stop wondering when you're going to get a real job? Your life is way easier.<p>Got a big and diverse enough array of clients that losing a big one won't sink the company? Your life is way easier.<p>Doing well enough financially that you've been able to build up a sizeable nest egg? Your life is way easier.<p>As for luck, Bo Peabody's 'Lucky or Smart?' is the classic here - it's a great little book. Companies do get lucky break, but they have to be able to recognize and take advantage of luck when it comes.
A lot of the times, the first step in the right direction is <i>really</i> hard. The kind of hard that makes projects not happen, deals not get signed, relationships not get built, etc.<p>But every step after the first in the right direction gets easier.
No one punches these keys, ~!@#$%^&*()-+, w regularity who embraces ease, as a cartographical matter of fact. I think the root problem you're asking about is how to deal with confusion and overwhelm, rather than difficulty.