There's a very big difference between imagining murdering people because they are annoying you and actually threatening it (like she claims her son has done). So I'll give her a pass on that. An amusing anecdote from Steven Pinker: <a href="http://youtu.be/LJvqR6Y9acw" rel="nofollow">http://youtu.be/LJvqR6Y9acw</a><p>>In surveys of homicidal fantasies, the question "Have you ever fantasized about killing someone who you don't like?"... 75% of men admit to at least occasionally having fantasized about killing someone. What does this say about human nature? It says that 25% of men are liars.<p>I'm not sure which son is which. It would be pretty damning if the Steve Jobs kid was also supposed to be the mentally ill kid. None of the behavior she describes there is unusual or to me even disagreeable. The damn kid sounds like a genius who happens to be liberal (who is young and isn't?) and has an obsession with Steve Jobs (I'm guilty). But some people are saying in the comments that they are separate kids.<p>>If I am wrong about this, I truly apologize.<p>I'm thinking an apology may be on the way.
I obviously don't know this woman and can't speak to the truth of anything she wrote, but the citations in this post don't really seem like the poster has uncovered anything but the fact that, like all people dealing with really tough situations, sometimes you just wanna throttle your kid for their, you know... being a kid.<p>I was moved by the original post, but this follow-up seems a bit reaching for my taste.
I'm a parent. My kids are good kids.<p>But they will drive me absolutely crazy pretty much every day. To a point where I think of doing all kinds unthinkable things to them. I also often fantasize just leaving, and living happily ever after.<p>I will, of course, never do any of that, and I would do absolutely anything for my kids, incl. protecting their lives over mine.<p>Sarah Kendzior either has no kids, or has some other motives for posting that garbage.
In the viral post, the Mom wrote "I need help" and "This problem is too big for me to handle on my own". That's really the key thing here, independent of how her marriage turned out or whether she uses a blog to vent. She's losing control of the situation and is concerned her son will do something stupid in an act of rage. Her post is a plea to the general public to help people with mental illnesses, because sometimes the people in their vicinity aren't able to. Making her look bad detracts from that message, but does not take away from it (IMHO).
Most of these "fantasies" come across as tongue-in-cheek rants of a frustrated mother.<p>Dysfunctional family, yeah. Over-sharing on a public blog? Certainly. Mentally ill? Not so sure.
This is ridiculous. Parenting is really freaking hard. I'm a father of two small kids but I can't imagine being a single mom of four kids, with one mentally ill, like Liza. I commend her for being so honest and using her writing to get through such a difficult thing like parenting.
I think that a better critique of "I Am Adam Lanza's Mother" can be found here [1], and discussed on hacker news here [2]. I think it is more productive to focus on the content of the original post than the author.<p>[1] <a href="http://thegirlwhowasthursday.wordpress.com/2012/12/16/you-are-not-adam-lanzas-mother/" rel="nofollow">http://thegirlwhowasthursday.wordpress.com/2012/12/16/you-ar...</a><p>[2] <a href="http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4929592" rel="nofollow">http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=4929592</a>