Finding Out You’re a Sexist, Misogynistic, Homophobic, Classist, Racist Asshole

11 pointsby tanokuover 11 years ago

9 comments

miklover 11 years ago

So, basically, everyone that doesn't agree with her is just irrational, deluded, etc. The world horribly bad, oppressing, we're all sinners in need of salvation, etc., etc.I'm tired of these rants. I'll gladly listen to you describing your experiences, but I don't accept your worldview, and I will not agree to describe myself as “misogynistic” or “racist” (not to mention “asshole”), just because I don't agree with you.It's not that our current system is perfect, or that it can't be improved. But for every person that feels oppressed like the OP, there's a hundred that don't have to starve to death, ten others who can live and fulfill their dreams, five others who…It's good to reflect on the fact that our human minds are predisposed towards prejudice and selfishness. Calling people nasty names because of those inborn traits is just silly.

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daekenover 11 years ago

The last thing we need is yet another article (albeit a fairly well-written one) about the problems faced in the abstract, with no solutions in sight. So I'm going to propose one thing you can do. Yes, you. If you see someone being an asshole, particularly if they're someone you know already, make them aware of what they're doing and why it's inappropriate. This works just as well for casual sexism as it does 'bully' attitudes in the workplace.Seriously. Speak up. We as a community have a tendency to be passive-aggressive, talking in hushed tones about how X acted that night, or how we really wish that Y would stop making racist comments on team outings. In the words of a wise man, "Shut up and say something."

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orclevover 11 years ago

yawnI've seen a bunch of these now and frankly I don't see the point. Maybe we should all become Zen Bhuddist monks and subsist off happy thoughts alone lest we accidentally step on an ant and take a life?I don't know exactly what needs to be done to fix these problems, but I know rants like this do absolutely nothing. You want to see what might make a difference, look at something like this: <a href="http://www.hackingplay.com/carnegie-mellon-study-on-gender-and-computer-science" rel="nofollow">http://www.hackingplay.com/carnegie-mellon-study-on-gender-a...</a>

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Hytosysover 11 years ago

>You are a sexist, misoyngistic, homophobic, transphobic, classist, racist asshole. Oh, and possibly even a hypocrite.>Sorry bro.>Yes, I have slut-shamed, body-policed, name-called, bad-joked, appropriated, derailed, co-opted, silenced, objectified, stereotyped, trivialized, slurred, punished, isolated, insulted, benefited, and stayed silent with the worst of them.I'm missing the overarching sarcasm, right? Surely the author cannot be blind to her own contradictions. This must be bait.

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zabuniover 11 years ago

Meh, this is just another diatribe that makes all sexism and racism as sin: a pernicious character flaw that can never be blotted out, but must be constantly atoned for. Ditch the hairshirts, they don't suit you.This is particularly shitty, because they take systemic problems, like racism, sexism, environmentalism, and make them into personal responsibilities. See here:<a href="http://jacobinmag.com/2013/07/revolutionizing-ethics/" rel="nofollow">http://jacobinmag.com/2013/07/revolutionizing-ethics/</a>No matter how much you atone, systemic sexism will prevail. If you want to change that, CHANGE THE SYSTEM. Introspection is good, but on its own, is just masterbation.

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Fuzzwahover 11 years ago

After the last article I asked the author for info on which books I should look at reading to educate myself. So seeing this section in this new article frustrates me so much:> It’s your job to educate yourself. You know how to fucking Google and find things on the internet and on your Kindle and your iPad and all those other things, so do it. Don’t ask marginalized and oppressed people to do your homework for you.Surely lowering the friction and leading those who are interested in learning more via some recommendations is a good idea?

debacleover 11 years ago

It's always important, when reading something like this, to realize how young the person who wrote it was, how emotional they were when they wrote it, and where they're coming from.Often times people who write this kind of screed are writing more for themselves than for others, even if they don't know it.Clearly there are other people who are curious who this woman is - her personal site appears to be completely hammered right now - but I don't think this distraction is particularly important except for the people here who are seeking distraction for distraction's sake.

omonraover 11 years ago

It sounds like she just realized she's human

icecreampainover 11 years ago

When someone accuses me of being any of those things, I just say "yes" and let them think so. If people want me to be sexist I can be sexist. I can be a women (or MAN!) hater if I want, or if the name-caller wants. Either is fine.Here's the thing: whenever I'm called names it makes me want to be/continue being those things just because if pisses the person off. It hurts their fragile little feelings that someone has the audacity of not having the exact same opinion as them and they can't digest it. And while they've having a shouting fit or breaking down I'm continuing with my life, now perhaps a little happier that I've pissed another person off just by being me.Hey, article writer! I'm never visiting neither your blog or this popular (for some reason) "medium.com" domain, nor am I going to stop being myself. Being me has gotten me to where I am and being you has only resulted in you having constant fits that there are people who aren't genetically alike to yourself. You go ahead and break down and I'll just laugh at you while continuing to call you a fat, nigger-loving, liberal, man-hating feminazi.