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<i>Instead, I get guys who deny that I can be smart or capable; guys who like how smart I am but try to get me fired if I won't go out with them</i><p>I think that is likely the essence of The Glass Ceiling. And it sucks.
[referring to Assembly] <i>I told him that couldn't be true because it's not even human readable.</i><p>Not sure if this is meant to be a joke. If not, what? I mean, perhaps you could say that for your compiler output, but otherwise...?<p>Otherwise, I sympathized with her story, although the rather tired "Where did all the good men go?" ending wasn't particularly apt. Still, this <i>is</i> a Jezebel story. For the penultimate postmodern feminist trash rag, it isn't that bad.
So, to begin to explain how those sweet guys from the dance turned into the guys you're meeting now:<p><pre><code> Instead, I get guys who deny that I can be smart or capable
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They probably have had no exposure to intelligent women, or women who code. They've built up a stereotype in their head and your mere existence is putting it into question, so they go into denial.<p><pre><code> guys who like how smart I am but try to get me fired if I won't go out with them
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Manipulative and insecure? Psychological issues with women, probably preying on any women they meet.<p><pre><code> guys who refuse to interview me for jobs that I'm overqualified for and push me towards jobs that are more typical for women
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I'm not sure what jobs are typical for women, but i've seen a lot of men pushed away from jobs if they're overqualified, for a number of reasons. Still, if this was just sexism at work, it points to more insecurity or lack of exposure to smart women who code.<p><pre><code> guys who dangle new language carrots in front of me until a guy comes along to give it to
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I don't know what this means?<p><pre><code> guys who make it clear in my interviews that they felt that they needed to interview at least one woman
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Oh, heh, that's a fun one. It works well on women because discriminating against women isn't as stigmatized as discriminating against black people.<p><pre><code> guys who test me on my video game knowledge in interviews
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This could be just to tell how much of a nerd/geek you are. Could work in your favor if you show them how passionate you are about technology or having fun?<p><pre><code> guys who call me a fake geek girl
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Back to the first example, probably had no exposure to women who were smart or coded, and react to their stereotypes coming into question by shielding themselves in denial.<p><pre><code> guys who tell me that I shouldn't be allowed to wear that shirt with that famous programmer who knows who I am
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Again an example of the fake-geek-girl-denial. Or just someone who hates that famous programmer? (I would probably pay someone to burn their RMS or ESR t-shirt, unless they were being ironic)<p><pre><code> guys telling me that it's impossible for me to be a nerd because I didn't pay my dues by being friendless except for my D&D buddies
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Oh, how the jaded lonely nerd doth protest too much! Male nerds that have style or lots of sexual partners or some other qualification of "a cool person with friends" get the same shit, but you probably get the extra burden of expectation of gender roles, in that women are expected to socialize more freely than men.<p>Honestly, I don't get the draw of the typical "nerdy guy". They're kind of a pile of social and emotional problems and focus too much on one kind of hobby versus expanding their horizons. And they look like slobs. Why not find yourself a nice surfer with tattoos who writes poetry?