TE
TechEcho
Home24h TopNewestBestAskShowJobs
GitHubTwitter
Home

TechEcho

A tech news platform built with Next.js, providing global tech news and discussions.

GitHubTwitter

Home

HomeNewestBestAskShowJobs

Resources

HackerNews APIOriginal HackerNewsNext.js

© 2025 TechEcho. All rights reserved.

Ask HN: How do you remember names?

15 pointsby nahcubabout 11 years ago
I just went to a conference and it was bad. I forgot the names of people I met not more than 15 minutes later. I felt terrible that I didn&#x27;t know their name while they knew mine.<p>Do you all know of any good tips for remembering names?

17 comments

coffeecodecouchabout 11 years ago
Most of the time you don&#x27;t actually &quot;forget&quot; names, your brain never even registers them to begin with. Next time someone introduces themselves to you take a moment to stop worrying about what to say next and actually focus on the name. It helps if you link that name to a distinct physical property of the person in your mind. I _highly_ recommend reading &quot;You Can Have an Amazing Memory: Learn Life-Changing Techniques and Tips from the Memory Maestro&quot;[0]. I followed the techniques described in that book and the result absolutely blew my mind.<p>[0] <a href="http://www.amazon.com/You-Have-Amazing-Memory-Life-Changing/dp/1907486453" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;You-Have-Amazing-Memory-Life-Changing&#x2F;...</a>
jimehabout 11 years ago
Personally I have to visualize the person&#x27;s name in my mind written out in plain text, then I remember that visual image of their name and associate it with an image of their face.<p>This isn&#x27;t a technique I read about somewhere, it&#x27;s just what my brain has been doing at least since I was 7 and learned how to read and write.<p>Typically when I try to remember someone&#x27;s name, I&#x27;ll see the first letter of their name in my mind and it&#x27;s enough for me to recall and say&#x2F;write their name. Other times if I&#x27;m having difficulty remembering their name, given some time (5-60 seconds typically) I can generally recall their name by reading the image of their written name I originally memorized. Often this reading is more of a hint towards a the concept of a common name I know of (like Alex, John, Maria, etc) meaning I don&#x27;t need to recall and read it letter by letter. While if it&#x27;s a more uncommon or obscure name (like Agnomemnonas, or Urania) I generally have to recall and read it out letter by letter.<p>Personally I think it ties into the fact that I memorize everything in a visual and three dimensional way.<p>I tend to have conversations about how people remember names, specially with new people I meet, and as far as I recall, I&#x27;ve only met one person who memorizes names in written form in their head. However a lot of people I&#x27;ve met tend to not remember people&#x27;s names till they see them written on paper&#x2F;screen, so they&#x27;ll try to write people&#x27;s names down at some point if they don&#x27;t get a business card with the person in question&#x27;s name written on it.
lutuspabout 11 years ago
&gt; Do you all know of any good tips for remembering names?<p>The secret to remembering people&#x27;s names is to actually care about them. This is why I can never remember people&#x27;s names. :)<p>Imagine you&#x27;ve been told that your favorite programming language has some new useful features, recent examples in multiple languages include lambdas and list comprehensions. Guess how long it will take for the new feature&#x27;s names and syntax to be permanently branded onto your brain cells -- ten milliseconds?<p>People who actually care about other people have the same reaction to meeting someone new who they might like or find useful as a professional contact -- that person&#x27;s name is instantly and permanently branded onto their brain cells.<p>But if you&#x27;ve spent your professional life in abstract pursuits -- mathematics, science, programming -- it&#x27;s very hard to make a transition to giving people&#x27;s names enough importance to remember them. But guess what? People from the humanities have the opposite problem -- they can&#x27;t remember an equation or a scientific fact for more than a few seconds.<p>A professor of ichthyology once said, &quot;Every time I remember the name of a student, I forget the name of a fish.&quot;
hashtagabout 11 years ago
Not sure if this works for everyone but I try to say their name out loud at least once or twice when they introduce themselves then if it&#x27;s a name of someone I already know, I mentally try to picture that person next to this new person.<p>Alternatively before parting ways, I&#x27;ll try to say their name again for good measure or be honest and ask them for their name again and let them know I have a terrible memory
hansyabout 11 years ago
This happens to me more often than it should. A very small thing I do to help remember a person&#x27;s name right after they introduce themselves is to immediately use their name in my follow-up sentence(s).<p>Example:<p>Bob: I&#x27;m Bob. Nice to meet you!<p>Me: Hey Bob, I&#x27;m Hans. What brings you to the conference?<p>I think most of the time I reflexively say some appropriate greeting without thinking too much about it. By using the person&#x27;s name, I force myself to insert something new into an otherwise mechanical response.
notduncansmithabout 11 years ago
I just grab their face, stare into their eyes, and repeat their name 7 times. Funny thing is, people don&#x27;t seem to have trouble remembering my name either :)
评论 #7650996 未加载
closedabout 11 years ago
I associate what seems like the main component of their name with an object, and then imagine that object interact with the person.<p>For example, if someone&#x27;s name was Mike, I would picture them singing into a mic (say, at karaoke). Then, if you can&#x27;t remember their name, try to recall what you imagined them doing. Once you get into the habit it is fairly quick and doesn&#x27;t disrupt introductions.
lordsheepyabout 11 years ago
The trick I learned was to repeat the person&#x27;s name to yourself while taking note of their eye color. Makes you stop just long enough to really set the memory in place and seems to be positive eye contact as well. Another thing I do is if it is a networking function, I will continue conversations with new people:<p>&quot;Yeah, Ellen and I were just talking about the merits of [subject here]&quot;
petervandijckabout 11 years ago
I constantly forget names. I feel pretty bad about it. But attempting to remember them seems like such a huge effort.
kevandoabout 11 years ago
1) Set a goal and remember at least that. 3 people for example. 2) Repeat their names in conversation to show reinforce the memory and show you are capable of remembering names 3) Dont be shy about asking someone their name again. We all forget. Can&#x27;t ask twice though, thats bad
fskabout 11 years ago
When I start a new job, I take notes on everyone&#x27;s name, along with a coded physical description. (coded, in case anyone else reads it they won&#x27;t be offended, usually just the first letter of the descriptive word I&#x27;m using)<p>However, that only works with 5-10 people, not a large group.
ibstudiosabout 11 years ago
Associate the name with something you know. I make a mental note and associate right after the person says their name. The problem is that you aren&#x27;t paying attention and you need to force your mind to remember. Use strong memories for the association.... tv shows you love, etc.<p>Best of luck!
xpop2027about 11 years ago
Mattan Griffel, co-founder at One Month (YC S13), has an excellent post on how he remembered everyone&#x27;s name in his batch: <a href="https://medium.com/medium-redef/5481606b087a" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;medium.com&#x2F;medium-redef&#x2F;5481606b087a</a>
RollAHardSixabout 11 years ago
Concentrated effort starting in your everyday life. It becomes easier over time.
thaumaturgyabout 11 years ago
I&#x27;ve had to develop really good name &amp; face recall for my work. I have probably a couple hundred or more names, faces, and short tidbits stored up in my head, and can remember at least temporarily just about everyone I want to at a conference or other.<p>1. First, look at the person. Remembering someone&#x27;s name helps a lot if you can remember one thing about them. A lot of people don&#x27;t have a very memorable face, but most people have something about them that&#x27;s unique: do they stand with hips forward, wear velcro sneakers, have a beard, walk with a limp, have working-man hands, crow&#x27;s feet next to their eyes, a specific hairstyle...? &quot;That guy, Nick&quot; becomes &quot;That guy, Nick, who&#x27;s tall and thin and has a really easy-going smile who holds his head back on his shoulders a bit and tends to wave his hands when he&#x27;s talking.&quot; Now Nick&#x27;s a unique person to you.<p>2. Listen to the person. Remembering someone&#x27;s name is even easier if you can remember two things about them. Why are they at the event? What do you have in common with them? What gets them excited? Don&#x27;t try to remember their life story, instead pick just one thing that stands out for you and associate it with the physical person and their name. &quot;That guy, Nick, who&#x27;s tall and tin and has a really easy-going smile who holds his head back on his shoulders a bit and tends to wave his hands when he&#x27;s talking, especially when he&#x27;s talking about Python. He does some geocoding work that I don&#x27;t really understand.&quot;<p>3. If you really really want to remember someone, make contact with them. Not necessarily physical contact (like a handshake, not my favorite thing), but join in on the conversation, make eye contact, have a couple of words back and forth.<p>This also trains you to pay attention, and as others pointed out, inattentiveness is probably a big part of why it&#x27;s so hard to remember people you&#x27;ve met. It&#x27;s easy to just glance at someone and not commit anything to memory, and that&#x27;s probably what happens most of the time.<p>Finally, when there isn&#x27;t stuff going on, I&#x27;ll spend a few seconds going through everyone in my head. If it&#x27;s less than an hour since I&#x27;ve met them, I can usually work out any details I&#x27;ve forgotten. I have a kind of mental yearbook, and I go through it: &quot;face &amp; name &amp; bio, face &amp; name &amp; bio, face &amp; name &amp; bio, face &amp; ... blank? Wait, their name was Dave something, he liked embedded systems programming, he had a common last name, oh yeah, Dave Smith...&quot;<p>It&#x27;s the pop quiz effect: you&#x27;re more likely to remember something longer if you&#x27;ve had to recall it at least once since committing it to memory.<p>edit: Oh, and don&#x27;t be shy about forgetting something about someone! Being stressed out because you can&#x27;t remember someone&#x27;s name can make it a lot harder to remember the next person&#x27;s name. And, odds are, they don&#x27;t remember your name either, so being up-front about forgetting can put them at ease too. &quot;Hey, we met just a while ago, we talked about ______, I can&#x27;t for the life of me remember your name though.&quot;
jesusmichaelabout 11 years ago
I dont
doubt_meabout 11 years ago
Pay attention.<p>If you have to try to pay attention your not doing it right