"For years we Americans have been fed the convenient lie: study hard, work hard in your chosen field, work hard at your marriage, save money, organize your flour, salt, and sugar into labeled bins, and you will be in control of your life and your destiny."<p>I'm officially starting to get sick of hearing this. Yes, it's an interesting story, and yes, US Healthcare is in need of some serious fixing, whatever that may mean to you.<p>But nobody ever guaranteed that you'll be in control of your life and your destiny. Freak things happen; life isn't fair. All of these things (work hard, save, study, etc.) are good to teach kids, because it increases the odds of being in control of your own destiny. But that's it--it tilts the odds slightly in your favor.<p>What else would you rather teach your kids? The author mentions her own child is paying his/her way through college. Is that a bad thing? If higher education is a part of this "convenient lie", perhaps you should tell your child: it doesn't matter if you study hard or work hard--just sit back and wait for things to happen.<p>Perhaps sitting down and talking with her children about career paths. No one ever guaranteed that she'd be financially independent regardless of what she chose for work (that I know of, anyways). If she chose to go into a field that she LOVES, but that doesn't pay much, she needs to be aware of that. Writing is a difficult field, I am sure. And yes, doing what you love is important, but so is being able to do the things outside of work that you love.<p>The article talks about "massive nooses of debt" that affect the economy. Nobody forced her child to go to a college where he/she had to take out massive loans. State schools are excellent choices! Outside of the top 10-ish in the country, I'd be surprised if the higher-cost schools are "worth" their cost. Talk to your children about their college choices!<p>Yes, there are things that need to be addressed about our economy. Yes, our healthcare system is in a bad state. But I am sick & tired of hearing people blaming the lie that "some anonymous person/society told me to work hard and study hard, but now I'm not where I want to be--it must be society's fault". She had to downsize your apartment, she can't pay for her child's college. So what? Is that society's fault?