I know this is a philosophical can of worms, but if you can describe X, does it follow that you can code X? Let's replace X with friendship. Are there any books that tackle this question? I guess I've been feeling lonely.
Being a friend is pretty simple:<p>- Talk to people you like.<p>- Call them, message them, and get them to do stuff with you.<p>- Repeat.<p>But in all seriousness, being a good friend and making friends is easy! Just be willing to put yourself out there and initiate!<p>When I was younger, I never really understood how this stuff worked: I would isolate myself from everyone, and somehow feel 'lonely'.<p>Over the past 5 or 6 years I realized that if you want a real connection with someone, just go for it! Be friendly! Say hi! Invite people out to do stuff with you (go to a meetup, grab coffee, tag along on a trip -- whatever).<p>It's a little scary at first (everything is), but it's honestly great!<p>I'm not sure if you're in the bay area at all, but if you are, and want a friend, feel free to hit me up. I'm a nice guy and would be happy to hang out -- can never have enough friends =)<p>I'm r@rdegges.com on google chat and my phone number is 818-217-9229.<p>-Randall
If this has been a persistent problem, I suggest group therapy.<p>I am absolutely serious. I spent years in group therapy, it did me a world of good.<p>Before I started therapy I came very close to leaping off the top of a six-storey building. Now I'm quite happy, and have lots of friends.