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I’m Too Old for This

122 点作者 kareemm将近 10 年前

16 条评论

Xcelerate将近 10 年前
I generally try to abstain from criticizing articles too much, but this one bothers me a little bit — mainly because it is one among many of the numerous articles and blog posts popping up nowadays that advocate for the same general behavior: &quot;focus on yourself&quot;.<p>I felt uncomfortable after I finished reading this and looked up some of the author&#x27;s other work. See the reviews of her most recent book here:<p><a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;Slow-Love-Pajamas-Found-Happiness-ebook&#x2F;product-reviews&#x2F;B0052RGBW2" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;Slow-Love-Pajamas-Found-Happiness-eboo...</a><p>In addition to having nominating her own work for national awards, there&#x27;s an odd discrepancy between the generally positive distribution of ratings and the sheer number of upvotes on the <i>lowest rated</i> reviews as sorted by &quot;Most Helpful&quot;.<p>I feel that articles that encourage people to have higher self-esteem and more self-confidence are, generally speaking, a good thing; however, the problem starts occurring when the focus is <i>entirely</i> on yourself. I feel like this theme of &quot;be good to yourself; you deserve it&quot;, &quot;sorry not sorry&quot;, and &quot;you don&#x27;t need anyone else to make you happy&quot; falls only on the ears of those who are already far too absorbed in themselves.<p>It&#x27;s peculiar because (at least in my experience), I&#x27;ve found that the people who actually <i>need</i> to read articles like this are those who already give too much of themselves to other people, yet secretly wonder if they are too selfish. Whereas those who <i>are</i> too selfish read these articles and think, &quot;Hey that&#x27;s me! I need to quit letting other people walk all over me. I need to care about myself more&quot;, when in reality they need to move in the other direction and care <i>less</i> about themselves.
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dctoedt将近 10 年前
I&#x27;m 60. Of course it&#x27;d be great to have my 21-year-old body and brain back (assuming I could keep all my experiences and learnings). And I&#x27;d love to be around to see what life will be like 50-80 years in the future, which I know is unlikely to happen.<p>Otherwise, though, I wouldn&#x27;t trade. I&#x27;m fortunate to be very healthy, and life is better now than it&#x27;s ever been. (I know, not everyone can say that --- as I say, I&#x27;ve been fortunate.)
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rayiner将近 10 年前
A lot of the advice in this article comes down to having perspective. E.g. I don&#x27;t think the author misjudged her looks when she was younger--she just realized now that she&#x27;s older it never mattered as much as she thought.<p>Getting married and having a kid was liberating for me in that regard. My desire to impress people who didn&#x27;t matter or come across as cool and not derpy went almost to nil.
greghendershott将近 10 年前
I&#x27;ve heard a similar idea expressed using more colorful language:<p>&quot;Often you hear people say they have a &#x27;bucket list&#x27;. Well I also have a &#x27;fuck it&#x27; list. The older I get, the longer it grows.&quot;
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julian_t将近 10 年前
&gt; Only when you hit 60 can you begin to say, with great aplomb: “I’m too old for this.”<p>Hmmm... for me, that&#x27;ll be in just under a month, then ;-)
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woohoo7676将近 10 年前
Insightful article. I&#x27;m only halfway to 60, so I still do a lot of the worrying and mistakes the author mentioned, but even looking back on my 20&#x27;s there&#x27;s some situations where I now think &quot;I&#x27;m too old for this.&quot; Avoiding some of the storms definitely feels nice.
nickbauman将近 10 年前
Yup. Ruminating is probably the fastest way to arrive at depression. Make a concerted analysis, fine, but then move on.
forloop将近 10 年前
I&#x27;ve come to my own realisation: if I never read the NYTs again, I&#x27;ll be net better off.
plg将近 10 年前
A secret of happiness : you don&#x27;t have to wait until you&#x27;re 60
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kendallpark将近 10 年前
Love this.<p>&gt; Only when you hit 60 can you begin to say, with great aplomb: “I’m too old for this.”<p>But you definitely don&#x27;t need to wait until sixty. :)
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falcolas将近 10 年前
This made me smile and laugh. And I have to agree, it&#x27;s amazing what a little bit of resilience and the ability to see the &quot;same old crap&quot; coming can do for you.
EugeneOZ将近 10 年前
No, old grumpy woman, you should care how you look. And fat body is a problem too, not only in terms of &quot;look&quot;, but in terms of health. Athletic body is the aim - not fat and not anorexic. And &quot;just be yourself&quot; it&#x27;s not an excuse, it&#x27;s just laziness. You just too lazy for this.<p>I know you will downvote it and I don&#x27;t care :) I more care about young people who allow themselves to be fat or ugly because of &quot;be yourself&quot; mantra. You will NEVER return these golden years, don&#x27;t miss it - make your body beautiful (athletic) and enjoy it.
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Joeboy将近 10 年前
&gt; Take a pass on bad manners, on thoughtlessness, on unreliability, on carelessness and on all the other ways people distinguish themselves as unappealing specimens.<p>I&#x27;ve also moved in that direction as I&#x27;ve got older, but I think it&#x27;s because I&#x27;ve also got wealthier and gained more options. If I still had to choose between sharing my kitchen with thoughtless people and living in a ditch, I would still choose the former.
ExpiredLink将近 10 年前
I&#x27;m not over 60 but I&#x27;m too old for Scrum. Can anyone over 30 take that Scrum kindergarten serious?
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redcalx将近 10 年前
&quot;By now I’ve learned, the very hard way, that what you see in someone at the beginning is what you get forevermore.&quot;<p>I&#x27;ve heard this a few times over the years. Slowly I&#x27;m beginning to learn this first hand, from observing others but also myself.
carsongross将近 10 年前
Profound.<p>But not in the way the author intends.