Improving the Experience When Relationships End

I once received a Facebook notification on my phone when my ex-girlfriend got engaged. If this had been in place then I might have been able to avoid that temporary kick in the gut.

So, like, just how much is Facebook manipulating and tailoring what I see already? I&#x27;m already fairly certain it&#x27;s not simply showing me everything all of my friends post in the strict time order they post them (like it used to in the old days?).<p>I was starting to wonder the other day if it was like Pandora radio. If I click &quot;like&quot; on something do they show me more posts similar to the one I liked? If so, can I please have a thumbs down button so I can explicitly tell them, &quot;don&#x27;t show me stuff like this.&quot; It sounds like this is a start to exposing that functionality. Are they very slowly and gently admitting that they do manipulate our feeds?

Facebook fixes a problem it created, and that counts as news?

I&#x27;m guessing with high likelihood that the people who are complaining about this feature are probably the people who don&#x27;t even use Facebook.<p>Sometimes you break up with someone and even though you don&#x27;t want to see anything related to them in the near, that doesn&#x27;t mean you don&#x27;t want to still be friends. Immediately you would just rather not see any updates from your ex and also not have to deal with the social aspects of having to unfriend&#x2F;block your ex.<p>Unfriending them causes problems later on when you decide you&#x27;re OK with being friends and also causes problems with your friends asking why you&#x27;re no longer friends with that other person (the breakup was that bad huh?). No it wasn&#x27;t but there was no other way to immediately not have to deal with that emotional aspect of a breakup.<p>Also unfriending someone does not prevent photos or other people tagging your ex from showing up, unless you _block_ the ex. Then now you are required to further explain why you unfriended and blocked your ex.<p>&quot;Oh, Janice broke up with Tom and then unfriended him? And blocked him? Cold-hearted bitch.&quot; &quot;What&#x27;s that? Alex broke it off with Jill and then unfriended her? Then blocked her? What an asshole!&quot;<p>So there is more to deal with that an unfriend would exacerbate.<p>The comment about &quot;engineering&quot; people to be terrible at handling interpersonal relationships is... a weird way to consider this new feature. The generation before Facebook most people just didn&#x27;t go outside or didn&#x27;t pick up their phone to avoid dealing with the issues you face on a social network. But I do not see how either aspect is making people better or worse. Breakups suck, people were never really good at dealing with them.

&quot;Edit individual posts one by one&quot;<p>i.e. Look at all these happy posts and pictures one by one (bonus points if it&#x27;s chronological) and click &quot;remove me&quot; for each one.<p>Not sure this one will make the final cut, except as a version of holding a wake for your relationship.

It&#x27;s important to note that a major part of this update allows the user to easily prevent their content from being visible to the other party.<p>This isn&#x27;t the same thing as the user electing to filter their incoming information, though the update includes facilities for that as well.

How about just deleting your ex? After all Facebook is supposed to be for friends.

An interesting tool, but I assumed that facebook did this sort of thing automatically anyway--seems like most people would want to see a tad less of a new ex.

This is a &quot;tool&quot;<p>lol.

Taylor

They&#x27;ve had the unfriend button since the beginning.