Here's what confuses me. What actually happened to her? Without any context, all this can really be is her word against someone else's. She says she forwarded on relevant harassment incidents, but without context, the actual truth of what happened to her is unknown.<p>>Don’t tell people to stay quiet about abuse. This removes them from their support network of friends and family.<p>Didn't they just tell her to stop talking about it in public, though? And really what mechanism does anyone have to force her to do this?<p>>If you’re a dude, don’t reach out to women leaving other open source projects saying “join us here!”<p>On the surface, that sounds like she wants men to...not be welcoming? This is, perhaps, poorly worded.<p>>You have no idea if women in the community have problems or not. Women will talk to other women about the quality of the community. But it’s also just really bad taste. Instead, find someone in your community that is also part of that minority group to reach out. They’ll know more about potential issues than you will.<p>Not sure how this follows from the previous sentence. How is it in bad taste to reach out to someone in a welcoming way? Does this mean that I, as a straight white male, should only communicate with other straight white males?<p>She probably doesn't mean it this way, but boy, am I confused.<p>>Publicly stand behind the women in your community, or eventually they will leave and write a post just like this.<p>I find it amusing that someone who has written a tool that allows you to filter out a specific block of individuals (as trollish as they may be) can write this post at all. The cynical side of me thinks the attitude shown here is, "Hear me, but here's a way you can systematically ignore people that I fundamentally disagree with".<p>I often feel like tolerance and progressivism has wrapped all the way around to discrimination. Am I wrong to feel that is part of what's happening here?<p>EDIT: I'd like to make it clear that I'm genuinely not trying to troll. If I'm being wrongheaded, then please show me how my thinking is wrong.