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'Be Yourself' is terrible advice

41 点作者 the_duck将近 9 年前

10 条评论

sandworm101将近 9 年前
&gt;&gt; “I certainly had no idea that being your authentic self could get you as rich as I have become,” Oprah Winfrey said jokingly a few years ago. ”If I’d known that, I’d have tried it a lot earlier.”<p>Look for interviews where she gets angry. Her voice drops an octave and her careful accent disappears. I wouldn&#x27;t call her a phony, but she does have a public face.<p>I&#x27;m terrified by the people who do not have a public face, the people that don&#x27;t hide. They seem to never falter. That can look like strength but they are unable to adapt to different audiences and that is a weakness. When you see that they hide nothing it is very difficult to forgive the gaffes because ... well, they aren&#x27;t really gaffes. It&#x27;s just crazy all the way down.
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jessriedel将近 9 年前
Saying &quot;be yourself&quot; is a way to say &quot;I&#x27;m suave enough to not have to think consciously about the persona I project&quot;. Likewise, &quot;never settle&quot; is a way to brag &quot;I was good enough to not have to settle&quot;.<p><a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.overcomingbias.com&#x2F;2011&#x2F;10&#x2F;never-settle-is-a-brag.html" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.overcomingbias.com&#x2F;2011&#x2F;10&#x2F;never-settle-is-a-brag...</a>
CPLX将近 9 年前
Be yourself should just be properly understood as a contraction for &quot;be the best version of yourself&quot; which is basically the thesis statement of this entire article.
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leeoniya将近 9 年前
if i may...<p><a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.humoar.com&#x2F;wp-content&#x2F;uploads&#x2F;2015&#x2F;12&#x2F;greatest-weakness-honesty.jpg" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.humoar.com&#x2F;wp-content&#x2F;uploads&#x2F;2015&#x2F;12&#x2F;greatest-we...</a>
tormeh将近 9 年前
&quot;Be yourself&quot; is actually really good and really bad advice. It&#x27;s bad because it&#x27;s uninformative, but good because it&#x27;s true. The challenge lies in knowing who you are. The way there is long and hard. It&#x27;s reconciling what you want with what you like, for example.
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khedoros将近 9 年前
I see two issues in the article. I don&#x27;t think that &quot;being yourself&quot; is the same thing as speaking without a filter, and I don&#x27;t think that it requires someone to think of themselves as an unchanging entity.<p>&gt; It worked. Next time people say, “just be yourself,” stop them in their tracks. No one wants to hear everything that’s in your head.<p>That last line is the core of the issue that I see. To me, an important aspect of &quot;being myself&quot; is living my life in my head, rather than through my actions. Acting out on everything I&#x27;m thinking would be distinctly un-self-like for me. I suspect that I&#x27;m just missing the point that the author&#x27;s trying to make.
rmellow将近 9 年前
How much you can &quot;Be Yourself&quot; of course varies greatly between cultures.<p>- Russians will see through unauthentic smiles with disdain.<p>- Brazilians don&#x27;t do well with blank expressions or disagreement.<p>- The dutch on the other hand expect you to express your disagreements with no sugar coating - and might be disappointed if you hide your opinion.<p>I&#x27;m not very compatible with my own culture, and I expect to reap greater professional benefits by immigrating.
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metaphorm将近 9 年前
this article seems terribly concerned with some jargon about &quot;high self monitoring&quot;. it seems to me like an insufficiently critical acceptance of the theory of personality and consciousness presented by that one particular psychology article.<p>this entire article and the underlying assumptions need to be taken with many grains of salt.
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vatotemking将近 9 年前
FYI: The linked article about Radical Honesty by A.J. Jacobs is hilarious.<p><a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.esquire.com&#x2F;news-politics&#x2F;a26792&#x2F;honesty0707&#x2F;" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.esquire.com&#x2F;news-politics&#x2F;a26792&#x2F;honesty0707&#x2F;</a>
Artlav将近 9 年前
In other words, zero BS tolerance is not an excuse to just talk all the time.