The funny thing is that a lot of people will read this and say "Well, that's what I'm doing. I'm one of the few that actually does this the right way."<p>But from my oberservations of others (hard to observe yourself in that regard) thinking that way is usually a sign to be on the far other side and seldom question your own opinion. Thinking that myself, I probably have to look out a lot more for chances to see things from the other person's perspective.