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I was sexually assaulted at Equinox and banned for reporting it

196 点作者 pain_perdu超过 7 年前

10 条评论

koolba超过 7 年前
&gt; Three weeks after I’d sent Equinox a request for assistance, I received a call from a senior global executive. Without an ounce of compassion, he told me I was banned from Equinox — that, as a private gym, they had the right to cancel my membership for any reason, and they’ve decided to terminate mine.<p>I bet this came from the legal department. It seems blunt (and it is), but the rationale would be something like, &quot;<i>This guy got assaulted, we may be liable for something, let&#x27;s keep him away so we don&#x27;t make things worse until its settled.</i>&quot;. Not so much victim blaming as covering your ass going forward.<p>&gt; In my view, this is deplorable. As the major leading fitness brand, Equinox should never take this kind of approach in dealing with customers. I’ve paid over $10,000 in fees over the past two years, and I did not deserve to be treated so disrespectfully by the instructor, and I do not know why I should have been banned. For Equinox to cancel my membership, to ban me from the gym for no apparent reason only feeds a culture of victim-blaming.<p>$10K for a gym membership over two years?! That over $416&#x2F;month. Is that normal for the area?
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blumomo超过 7 年前
I regularly went to a gym in Jakarta and tried the massage service since it&#x27;s cheap compared to the western. One of the masseurs was male and I confirm with the author that it&#x27;s hard for heterosexual men to perceive subtle actions taken by gay instructors&#x2F;masseurs. Initially you attribute certain behaviors to cultural differences but luckily I realized why the masseur kept asking to continue selling his service to me. It felt very awkward for me too and obviously I skipped any future massage in that gym. I give my respect to the male author about speaking up. You can see easily how dumb some of the commenters are in this thread failing to recognize the value of that article.
zaroth超过 7 年前
Kudos to the author for reporting the incident and going to the police. That there turned out to be video of the whole incident was very fortuitous and it sounds like the police have a copy now.<p>The instructor was fired. Presumably the ex-instructor is being charged with a crime? That part is missing from the story.<p>As to being punished for speaking up -- the gym terminated the authors membershhip because it seems to me that the author has an open&#x2F;shut civil lawsuit against the gym, and they are expecting to get sued? I assume it&#x27;s easy to find lawyers who would take this on contingency and probably reach a quick settlement.
gphreak超过 7 年前
I&#x27;m sorry that happened to you and thanks for speaking up. The way the company treated you is beyond awful.
arjie超过 7 年前
This looks like the Equinox Pine Street location (in the FiDi), not the Equinox Sports Club on Market Street. Not that it matters for the story, but the headline&#x27;s off target.<p>The actual story is pretty fucked up, though.
WhitneyLand超过 7 年前
Amazingly, a comment below was critical of “writing an erotic novel on medium”, yet to me it was so non-erotic I couldn’t even understand the mechanics of the assault. Was this intercourse, touching? I guess he’s damned if he makes it too detailed and damned if he doesn’t.<p>Separately there’s a thread about Equinox protecting business interests. Even if that’s true it sounds like a double standard, I would bet they would not think they could get away with stonewalling so much if the victim were a vulnerable looking woman.
lr4444lr超过 7 年前
I&#x27;m sure I&#x27;m going to get heavily flagged for this, but even as written from the complainant&#x27;s PoV, the ambiguous nature of consent (i.e. as it happens in the real world, not in the law books) - must it be verbal, can be it simple acquiescence in a non-coercive setting - jumped out at me. I would not be surprised if the yoga instructor genuinely believes, even if mistakenly, this was consensual. I hope this comment isn&#x27;t construed as victim blaming or trying to make light of what was a scarring experience for someone, and I certainly don&#x27;t think Equinox staff handled it well.
dennisgorelik超过 7 年前
That story reads like a trolling&#x2F;parody to me. Read also sarcasm_heals&#x27;s comment (<a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=15471817" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=15471817</a>) which was, unfortunately, downvoted to death.
matt4077超过 7 年前
This has 100 votes after one hour. It has no connection to technology. It&#x27;s an unverified post on medium. And the punishment referred to in the headline is that the $5000&#x2F;yr membership to his gym was cancelled.<p>Meanwhile, discussions of women&#x27; discrimination, in the tech sector, from reputable sources are flagged as fast as possible. C. f.: <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=15267221" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=15267221</a>
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mkorfmann超过 7 年前
Why did this get flagged?