Sure. I've been there plenty of times, and have managed to push through to become relatively successful in life in a few peoples eyes.<p>Look, there's a lot I could say on this, but the one piece of advice I would give is to simply avoid inaction.<p>Right, I know what you're thinking. That sounds vague as shit and completely impractical. But what I mean by is that, for me, when I was in similarly tight spots to where you are right now, I found that the worst thing I could do was stay in my head.<p>This is now of course amplified by the information age we all live in. While people argue the converse and say the internet is full of rubbish, you really don't have to travel too far online to purposely find and overturn stones of some seriously deep knowledge and wisdom. Take HN for example - there are so many smart people here that could offer you a smorgasbord of options for how you can elevate yourself from this rut.<p>But this is precisely what I warn you to be mindful of. Because in the time that you've half-chewed and entertained the plethora of life-changing ideas around here or other somewhat enlightened parts of the web, you've not only not implemented a single one, but you've become addicted to chasing the next life-changing idea that will one day set you on the course you desire.<p>That's why I say that the most important thing is to do SOME things. Whatever it is: improv, travel, meditation, stoicism, working out - there's so many great things you can do to start getting things moving. But the crucial thing I found was to not get caught up in what the "right" thing or the "best" thing was, but simply pick a few things and start enacting them. This is the way one changes their life.<p>Additionally. and perhaps this pertains to my genetic makeup and neuroses, but I found more I pushed myself socially and tried to connect with others, the faster things start getting better for me. Even if I'd fuck up and made an ass of myself back in the day, I found that simply the act of getting that social 'ping' from another person emboldened my sense of self - regardless if it was a fun or awkward interaction.