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Ask HN: What has the past 12 months taught you?

203 点作者 onuralp将近 7 年前

129 条评论

firefoxd将近 7 年前
* Five co-founders are too many.<p>* If you are working on someone else&#x27;s crappy idea, think about working on your own crappy idea.<p>* Call people you might need later when you don&#x27;t need them. Or they tend to disappear when you do need them.<p>* Learn about the stock market and invest right away. You&#x27;ll make money, lose money, then understand money.<p>* Build as many projects as time allows. It&#x27;s nice to have the option to pick and choose.<p>* If you don&#x27;t do the thing you want to do today, 5 years from now you&#x27;ll remember and wonder how different your life would have been if you did.<p>* Don&#x27;t ask people what they think about your idea. They&#x27;ll either be supportive or mean to you. None of these are about your idea.<p>* Have a conversation with someone who doesn&#x27;t speak your language. Make the effort to understand them. Mr Tereso, came out of nowhere and taught me life lessons that changed my life. He spoke no English, and i spoke Duolingo level Japanese.<p>* I&#x27;ll end with this. If you are bored, create something. Make a clay pot, a drawing on paper, a JavaScript file, a wooden structure, a shoe rack, a sand castle, a matchstick home, a story. Make something you can look at the end result and you&#x27;ll never get bored again...
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sus_007将近 7 年前
Stay with a single programming language, a single framework, a single library, a single tech stack, a single version control system until you extract the last drop out of it.<p>Also, I am done with T.V &amp; Social Media. World Cup 2018 is going on ATM, we have Cricket World Cup next, then we have another Sports Tournament, and another, and another one... The entire entertainment industry is one infinite `loop` of baloney and you hold the `break` statement to it. They&#x27;re made to distract you from the real deal. Go out with a Soccer ball in stead, you don&#x27;t have to be a top-class player yourself, just kick the damn ball.<p>No matter how lazy you think you are, how fat&#x2F;thin you are, start exercising. Just do the basics at the beginning and slowly progress. Seriously just start with a 5 minutes of Jumping Jacks in the morning. You&#x27;ll feel much better for the rest of your day.<p>Also, as seen on many of the suggestions in this thread, don&#x27;t worry <i>a lot</i> about how short our life is. It makes matters worse.
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pleasecalllater将近 7 年前
Life is short, so work on things that matter.<p>People you love can be gone tomorrow.<p>You too - so prepare for that.<p>You don&#x27;t make friends at job, you will be fired as soon as they notice you have some family problems influencing your work. There will be no talking, no asking anything... and then your &quot;friends&quot; will silently agree with everything the manager does.<p>Read more - it really helps with anything you will do.<p>Write more - get a pen and a notebook, not a computer.<p>People will disagree with the brightest and most true thing you will write - just don&#x27;t care as soon as what you wrote is true.
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97s将近 7 年前
Turn off the TV. Turn off all social media. Turn off any negative influences. Eat as healthy as you possibly can. Exercise, yoga, tai chi, or anything that gets you moving. Enjoy the benefits of all the time you thought you didn&#x27;t have while having really good mental power because of your healthy diet and exercise. Live a good life.
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DoubleGlazing将近 7 年前
For me I have learned that there comes a point when you need to work differently in order to protect your health and family well being. Big salaries are great, but when the price for that is massive amounts of overtime that takes you away from your family it just isn&#x27;t worth it. Now I work for myself and I love it.<p>Hobbies are vitally important to keeping you happy and healthy, don&#x27;t neglect them.<p>When you get a speeding ticket and the GPS co-ordinates in the photo imply the camera van was miles away, the court won&#x27;t care.<p>My son was diagnosed with ADHD. A relief to know what it was, but also a burden in terms of managing it.<p>Falling down the stairs after slipping on a Nerf gun hurts. It really, really hurts.<p>Family comes first, always.
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yakshaving_jgt将近 7 年前
- Many well known people in tech are charlatans.<p>- There is no integrity in keeping silent when witnessing wrongdoing, even when speaking out may harm your current business prospects.<p>- Most &quot;interesting&quot; ideas in tech currently simply aren&#x27;t.<p>- &quot;Software Craftsmanship&quot; is a scam.<p>- Programmers are far less logical than they would themselves believe.<p>- Non-tech project managers in tech teams are beyond useless; they&#x27;re often plainly harmful to the business.<p>This is not an exhaustive list, and I didn&#x27;t learn all these things in the past 12 months. Some have just been beaten into me more over the past year.
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openfuture将近 7 年前
Most people will not be able to judge status based on more than one metric at a time and the first metric will often be money.<p>The world is a maze and you always have more options than you realize.<p>Doing what you think would be best (i.e. learning Russian) is most often not as good as doing something similar that fits your routine better (i.e. there&#x27;s a Polish guy in your building that&#x27;s willing to teach you Polish). Another formulation: Don&#x27;t force your dreams but rather take (with gratitude) what is given&#x2F;in front of you.<p>If what you think is best is worth it then change your life so that it can fit comfortably into your routine.<p>Time doesn&#x27;t exist but causality does. Whatever you are doing don&#x27;t beat yourself up when your focus drifts to something else. You will find yourself drifting back to it when you reach a catalyst, so the things you really want to do will eventually see the light of day.<p>Relaxing is more powerful than tensing, you can get further and faster (This one I keep learning over and over in new contexts).<p>Everyone is obsessed with fashion and how you look says more about you than you yourself are able to comprehend. This is because there are people that can see everything they need to know about you from how you look, you are familiar with this phenomena but from the other side. Resist it.<p>You are fundamentally alone.
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koliber将近 7 年前
You can put more effort in and potentially make more money. You can not make more time, no matter how hard you try. You can pay someone to do something to free up a portion of your time, which you can then use as you see fit.<p>You need to prioritize how you spend your time. This is not a one-time exercise. It&#x27;s an ongoing process.<p>You look at the things that you do in a given day, week, month, and year. You see how they benefit you, your family, friends, community, and society. You weigh that against your goals and happiness. You make little adjustments to how you spend your time.<p>Concreted example: I like gardening. Not any gardening, but growing heirloom tomatoes in particular. They are a finicky bunch and are often not the easy-to-grow varieties. This is OK. I fail a lot. I need to dedicate more time to this in order to succeed. People tell me to not try growing from seeds, but get some seedlings and start from there. That would not satisfy me. Unfortunately, I have other things that I value greatly so I decided that after this season, I will put growing tomatoes on hold. I&#x27;ll get back to it once some of my current priorities pass and I have more time.<p>Over time, your life will begin to look more and more in tune with your goals and expectations, and you will be a happier person.<p>Fill in your own details and don&#x27;t try to copy off of others. Everyone is different. And don&#x27;t try to grow heirloom tomatoes with kids, a full time job, a side business, and an active social life--the day is too short for all of that.
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polski-g将近 7 年前
Life is short, so is the life of people you care about. Don&#x27;t take it for granted.<p>People lie.<p>Typed languages are better.
zuzuleinen将近 7 年前
Some self-promo: I run a weekly newsletter with lessons gathered from HN <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;lessonsofhn.com" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;lessonsofhn.com</a><p>Here are some things I learned in the past 12 months:<p>* economics are more useful to me than politics. Stop reading news on politics, but rather financial news<p>* my biggest flaws are lack of patience and a big ego. Was hard to see this even though most of my life problems originated from these two<p>* sleep is damn important<p>* knowing yourself is an illusion. You can have the feeling that you know yourself, but you&#x27;ll be amazed how many things you can still learn about yourself.<p>* is very important to avoid resentment. This means talking or doing uncomfortable things, but is such a relief afterwards
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aloukissas将近 7 年前
Ideas are cheap, execution is everything.<p>Product-market fit is hard.<p>Keeping razor focus is harder.<p>Excercise, good sleep, and healthy food pay big dividends.<p>Don&#x27;t bother disagreeing with people on social media.<p>Finally: I can build way more things than I thought I could 12 months ago.
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_b8r0将近 7 年前
A few days ago last year, my heart imploded. We still don&#x27;t know what caused it. We don&#x27;t know if it&#x27;ll come back (I&#x27;ve had a shitty couple of months recently with the same symptoms but they went away at the end of last week), and I had major knee problems at the same time.<p>Still working on improving my health, but coming to terms with this being a part of life rather than something I&#x27;ll get over completely.<p>If anything, the last 12 months has taught me that your health is the one thing you can&#x27;t replace. Enjoy living while you can, because when your health&#x27;s gone, it&#x27;s gone.
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rroriz将近 7 年前
I didn&#x27;t know happiness until I had a daughter. I thought I had a pretty happy life until she was born.<p>After that, i learned to value my lonely hours :)
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prawn将近 7 年前
Embrace the process!<p>I&#x27;m really bad at finishing things. I have a lot of side projects on the go when perhaps I should focus on just one venture. But I&#x27;ve learned to just embrace trying to do everything at once (even if far from perfectly), and enjoying it rather than beating myself up about failing to consolidate. Might limit potential, but I like it more this way.<p>(I&#x27;ve run my main business for 20 years. I co-run a co-working space. I have a SaaS project, sports forum, involvement in some apps, a vanlife showcase, an aerial photography side business, etc. About to add something else. List of the main things here: <a href="http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.isaacforman.com.au&#x2F;" rel="nofollow">http:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.isaacforman.com.au&#x2F;</a>)
nsb1将近 7 年前
* The larger a company is, the more internally screwed up and annoying it is to work for<p>* Cliche, but worth repeating: Money doesn&#x27;t buy happiness, it buys choices, some of which may make you happier than others.<p>* Intimate relationships are like spinning plates: Hard to get started, easy to maintain once they are, but they DO require maintenance or they will eventually crash. Do nice things for your significant other and you will always have a refuge from the other crap that happens in your life.
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toomanybeersies将近 7 年前
Geez, I could write a book about what the past 12 months taught me. But here&#x27;s the main points:<p>* Learn when you have to move on, sometimes some things are out of your control and there&#x27;s nothing you can do about it.<p>* We all have our own story, don&#x27;t judge people for their vices and flaws unless you know their story (there are exceptions to this rule)<p>* Sometimes you just have to take the jump, quit your job, move overseas, and survive on your credit card until you find a new job. Otherwise in a years time, you&#x27;ll be in the same shitty place you are now.<p>* Seasonal Affective Disorder is a right bitch, and alcohol is not a cure.<p>* Corollary from the above: You may not feel it sometimes, but people do care for you, despite your head telling you the opposite.
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thorin将近 7 年前
* All the stuff that&#x27;s important to you can disappear in a few hours and there is likely nothing you can do about it<p>* Trying harder will not always change someones mind about things and may make stuff worse<p>* You need to rely on and trust and respect yourself first before others due to the above<p>* Mindfulness, exercise and nature can be your best friends, don&#x27;t ignore them<p>* Keep in touch with old friends and make new ones when you can you never know when you might need them<p>* Reading is good, specialization is for insects, be good at lots of stuff and don&#x27;t be too upset if you don&#x27;t feel you can&#x27;t master anything<p>* Be kind, everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle
beat将近 7 年前
Read a lot. I had largely fallen out of the habit of reading, in part due to attempting to switch to Kindle by using it on my iPad&#x2F;iPhone. But the temptations of the Internet are <i>right there all the damn time</i>.<p>Last year, I went back to reading paper books, and it was a revelation. Suddenly, I could immerse myself again! And after a while of this, my spouse gave me her unused Kindle Paperwhite - all the advantages of ebooks, only without Internet access on the device. Easy to read in bed at night without keeping her up with a light, too.<p>I&#x27;d almost forgotten the pleasures of chewing through big, intense works of nonfiction, the richness and depth of book-level arguments of history, science, biography, and more.
saheb37将近 7 年前
It takes a long time to create something rare and valuable. Patience is priceless.<p>Going all the way for your dream (or something you believe in); it doesn&#x27;t matter how many times you fail, and only you should be responsible to decide when to let it go when you think it&#x27;s time to move on. Doing what you want, for as long as you want, is what life is all about.<p>Only one or maybe two things are really important at any point in your life, rest of them just seem important, but they are not.<p>Boredom is the biggest problem of our generation.
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throwaway713将近 7 年前
Before we got married, my wife said she would move with me to California if I ever got a good offer from a major tech company.<p>This year I got an amazing job offer, and my wife threw a giant fit, told me she&#x27;s not coming, and said &quot;I took a gamble and lost. I never thought you would actually get an offer&quot;.<p>Now she&#x27;s refusing to get a job, wants me to continue paying for our house that she&#x27;s living in on the east coast (in addition to rent for my apartment in the Bay Area), wants me to pay for 20 flights per year across the country so she can visit friends and family, and has called me every mean name in the book.<p>So my career is going great but my marriage is falling apart.
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Mandatum将近 7 年前
Go with my gut more often, stop taking other people&#x27;s advice against my gut feeling.<p>I&#x27;m in a pretty good position based on my own merits.<p>But I moved in with a friend at the advice that I&#x27;m too young to be living alone. I&#x27;m starting to miss it.<p>I would have earned a lot more and be much further in my career, potentially already employing people, if I hadn&#x27;t listened to my peers and mentors when it comes to career advice. I should have looked at their position, given their age and compared it with my own. Technically they&#x27;re amazing, career and money-wise, they should be much, much further ahead than I.<p>Save more. Get better with finance administration. Set hard goals and break them. Just because you earn almost 10-fold your first job, doesn&#x27;t mean you should be spending more than you were before. Money drives business drives ideas drives change.
skipthemeat将近 7 年前
Luck plays such a major role in life that:<p>1) You&#x27;re better off looking at things probabilistically.<p>2) You should seek ways to put the odds in your favor whenever you go up to bat and forget about the outcome.<p>3) When things are going your way, don&#x27;t get arrogant. And when things aren&#x27;t, don&#x27;t get despondent.<p>4) You should keep going up to bat and let the law of averages work things out in your favor.
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alchemism将近 7 年前
* When the CEO dumps the CTO and folds the job into his own, the startup is dead, no matter for how long it continues to turn a profit.<p>* Freecamping in Europe has shown me as an American that America is not nearly as free as we were taught to think. Great place to make money, though.<p>* There are definitely better things to experience in life than playing with more money than one really _needs_.
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dagw将近 7 年前
I spend way too much time doing pointless things on my phone (like this) and it&#x27;s really hard to stop.
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amb23将近 7 年前
The most pernicious, nastiest habit to get into is to think that you are stuck in your situation and there is no alternative. True for individuals and whole societies.
throwawayME123将近 7 年前
I&#x27;ve been working in the tech sector since forever. A year ago I took a gig in the Middle East, working for a logistics company. This not being a tech company, plus the lack of tech talent in this region means that the company isn&#x27;t anywhere as sophisticated as my past companies. Very few people here could get a job at any of my previous companies.<p>However, it&#x27;s growing like crazy, hitting revenue goals we never were able to hit in my previous companies, because there is such a huge demand on the market here for logistics&#x2F;deliveries.<p>Lesson learned = do something the market wants, you don&#x27;t even need to be that good to be successful (wrt growth).
mail2vks将近 7 年前
* Always change your job if you are not happy in the current one for any major reason.<p>* Always talk to your seniors&#x2F;manager for advice when you are stuck<p>* Move away from the habit of instant gratification as you move up<p>* Buying a used car is always better than buying a new one. Save on taxes and not much fear in crashing it.<p>* Any app with infinite scroll is made to glue you in and waste your time
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sidcool将近 7 年前
That pure technical prowess won&#x27;t help you reach the next level. It&#x27;s very important to know the right people, and even butter them. I always believed your works speaks for itself, but no, self-promotion is an important skill.
wildmindwriting将近 7 年前
* Writing on a consistent basis is both rewarding and eye-opening.<p>* Bumbling a tech interview can still bowl me over and make me feel inadequate, even though I&#x27;ve been in tech for 15 years.<p>* International travel is life-changing. Seeing the world outside of my American bubble for the first time a few months ago altered me in a way I didn&#x27;t think possible.<p>* Not all titles mean something.<p>* Do things for the sake of doing them, not because there is an end goal.<p>* Time is more important than money (but pay off your debt).<p>* Words and intent matter.
rivenfall将近 7 年前
1. Society (at least in Paris) rewards people who buy their own (humble) home, stay there, and don&#x27;t own a car. - if you don&#x27;t buy now you might as well rent forever, because inflation is not some BS tailored number like 2% : prices can go up 10% in a year - real interest rates to buy property are negative because of inflation - speculating or trading is BS and doesn&#x27;t cover for inflation - investing is ok but not as good as investing in your own home - renting costs more than owning property - if you are not patient enough selling property costs more than renting - cars real cost: buying, maintaining, parking, insurance, energy, freeways, possible accidents...<p>2. It&#x27;s easier to get up early if you&#x27;re alone, and it might even be easier to fall asleep
nickstefan12将近 7 年前
I&#x27;ve learned that the housing crisis is really just a wealth inequality crisis. Basically every city in America now thinks it has a housing crisis. Big. Small. Cheap. Expensive. Seriously, talk to people in every city and state and they all think their city has its own special housing crisis.<p>I think as long as there are people with deep pockets, anywhere desirable will be expensive regardless of supply. Like when dieting, &quot;you can&#x27;t out exercise the fork&quot;, you can&#x27;t out build the wealthy and multi property investors.<p>The housing crisis is a wealth inequality problem. Trying to build out of it destroys the character of cities and their access to nature and for what? To appease the always too deep pockets of people buying up multiple houses...
goatherders将近 7 年前
Being nice to people is easier than being rude. And life opens more doors than you can imagine when you are kind to people.
lightwin将近 7 年前
We undervalue ourselves most of the time.<p>We overestimate our fears most of the time.<p>An idea is nothing. Execution is everything.
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KozmoNau7将近 7 年前
Don&#x27;t forget to enjoy life. Travel, go to restaurants, go to museums, go see music live in concert, go to festivals, hang out with friends, get drunk (if that&#x27;s your thing), forget about your worries for just an hour, a day, a week, to clear your mind and get a fresh perspective. Throw off the shackles of modern civilized life once in a while. &quot;Forget&quot; your smartphone, you can live without constant social media updates and news articles. It&#x27;s perfectly OK to be bored, don&#x27;t be afraid to be alone with your own thoughts for a while. Daydreaming is healthy.<p>Everything is all fucked in the end, anyway. Might as well remember to live life while you still can.
eldavido将近 7 年前
How important it is to be proactive about career management - don&#x27;t always take the easy path, even if it pays well.<p>Doctors are exorbitantly overpaid relative to the value they provide.<p>How little money matters once you have a few hundred K.
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dagorenouf将近 7 年前
There is no silver bullet when it comes to programming.<p>No matter how simple a new framework promises to make things, you end up having to learn as much as with any other to achieve a non-trivial result.<p>When I realized this, I started looking at frameworks and languages not based on hype, but based on the style I would enjoy learning the most with.
oceanghost将近 7 年前
Love isn&#x27;t as strong as mental illness, and that no amount of hope and heart can solve problems for someone who won&#x27;t admit they have them.
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owaislone将近 7 年前
- You can make genuine friends at work and these friendships don&#x27;t have to end when people go their separate ways. One great way to stay in touch is to have weekly, bi-weekly or even monthly 1-1s with friends you don&#x27;t work with anymore. It helps to stay in touch and keep the friendship alive, and you gain fresh perspectives on problems from time to time.<p>- No matter how much transparent, rewarding and fair an organization thinks it is, just producing great work is never enough to get what you deserve in return. Ask for what you think you deserve, be it a promotion, a raise, more responsibility, etc. Don&#x27;t wait for it to be handed to you.<p>- No matter how much fair a company is, if you are not vocal enough about your contributions, you&#x27;ll not get as much recognition as you deserve. That or you need someone to do that for you like your manager or colleague but that is very rare.<p>- If people you look up to leaves the company, seriously re-think if you want to continue there. People leaving no matter how close to you will not badmouth the company so you won&#x27;t know something is wrong.<p>- If a founder leaves, get out ASAP and look for something better.<p>- If you are not a founder and are the best person at your job in the company, get out and work with people you think are better than you.<p>- You are worth much more than you think. If you want to make more money, you almost always can.
derwiki将近 7 年前
Happiness is a choice. I&#x27;m not saying bad things happening are a choice, often you&#x27;re not in control of that; but you are always in control of how you respond.
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dbasedweeb将近 7 年前
Most people believe whatever they want to believe, and it’s a massive waste of the limited time that is life to try and change their minds.<p>Peanut butter is best in savory applications.
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iamwil将近 7 年前
It&#x27;s really important to put feedback loops in place in your life to change it in the direction you want it to go.
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newfoundglory将近 7 年前
Quit earlier. I stuck around in a screwed up project until I couldn&#x27;t stand talking to anyone else involved, I would have been way better off if I&#x27;d committed to leaving about four months earlier than I did - when I could see that the fundamental requirements and plans were being faked for management, and everyone else was OK with that. By the time I did leave I was having actual nightmares about work.
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grassclone将近 7 年前
Life is dangerous.<p>We are not defined by our intentions (no matter how noble) but rather our actions.
excalibur将近 7 年前
&quot;Give me liberty, or give me death&quot; is admirable as a philosophy for precisely as long as your own life is the only one being wagered.
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vishalsharma将近 7 年前
&gt; Changed the job , stuck into since 5 Years. Learning =&gt; Make your decisions faster , dont overthink.<p>&gt; Became a father of a daughter. Learning =&gt; Be happy and spend little more time with family , value time and spending time effectively.<p>&gt; Bought a home with so much of efforts. Money is hard to earn, dont waste it for anything, and important if you are losing money , dont regret for it.
jageen将近 7 年前
I fail two interviews one is from Google and one is from Facebook. now I am rethinking about my ability towards coding and algorithms.
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xaedes将近 7 年前
1) You can&#x27;t do everything. Even when you COULD do each single thing there is only so much time. Saying &quot;no&quot; is important to get things done.<p>2) The world is absolutely unfinished. Really I sometimes wonder why everything not just breaks down with all the issues and broken solutions.<p>3) Teaching people is wonderful and fulfilling<p>4) Sales people and development people are .. different
__john将近 7 年前
ClearCase is a terrible version control system.
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beaconstudios将近 7 年前
- Consistent disciplined work is more productive than bursts of inspired work, over any meaningful time frame. For example, your side project will be much nearer to completion in 6 months if you put in 3 hours of pre-planned work every night, as opposed to 12 hours of frantic inspired work every week.<p>- Do the things you have to do first.<p>- You have two mental modes of operation - &quot;manager&quot; mode and &quot;worker&quot; mode. Batching your tasks by this dichotomy reduces stress caused by context switching between the two. In other words - when you&#x27;re planning, plan. When you&#x27;re doing, do.<p>- Software features don&#x27;t mean shit unless you&#x27;re designing the workflow around them. Tools that work based on journeys and flows are better than tools that provide disconnected capabilities and make you implement the journeys in your head.
tonyedgecombe将近 7 年前
* That I probably shouldn&#x27;t ride my bike so aggressively now I&#x27;m in my mid fifties.<p>* That the NHS is much better than it&#x27;s portrayed in the media.<p>* That my political opinions are way out of alignment with the majority.<p>* That I don&#x27;t much like my software, the platform it runs on or a substantial proportion of my customers.
wonderwuzzle将近 7 年前
Worries are temporary.<p>Doing things with cold logic will get them solved, but doing them with your heart will make you grow.<p>Bad days are important too.<p>Everyone struggles, but not everyone manages that properly. Justifying shitty actions with past experiences is no justification alone.<p>Taking care of both yourself and others is incredibly rewarding.
jbms将近 7 年前
It&#x27;s recognised that money doesn&#x27;t change you but it amplifies who you are. I&#x27;ve realised intelligence or ability is the same - it amplifies what you can do but doesn&#x27;t itself change you.<p>Living in Scotland, vitamin D daily really helps mood.<p>There are people who lie and manipulate. Don&#x27;t be naive and dismiss or justify the incongruities.<p>Investigating incongruities will always teach you something, as there&#x27;s an unknown reason for the incongruity.<p>Problems need holistic solutions - e.g. sorting posture by increasing muscular strength isn&#x27;t enough if you also need to work on loosening muscles and increasing flexibility. Hence the need to persevere more.<p>A lot of people struggle with keeping the bigger picture in mind (e.g. thinking about the user when designing a part of a system).
sbarker将近 7 年前
There&#x27;s plenty of cake, if you&#x27;re hungry get a slice. Oxycodone makes me throw up violently. I like helping people more than I thought.
superasn将近 7 年前
It&#x27;s far more important to do something and finish it than to do it right or perfectly.
j0hnml将近 7 年前
Live closer to work. An hour+ commute is just not worth it in the grand scheme of things.
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jwbensley将近 7 年前
Take more desk breaks were you get up and wall around. Getting he blood moving just by walking round the flat for a couple of minutes actually makes a difference.<p>I work from home so I&#x27;m on the phone a reasonable amount - I always walk around on my calls. It also gives you a screen break and really helps with problem solving.<p>I&#x27;ve also become more away of my dips in productivity. Unless you&#x27;re doing something mundane you can&#x27;t smash out great results for 8-10 hours every day. Switch tasks, go for a walk (outside this time), make a tea etc. Make sure your lunch break is something totally different to give your mind a break (I go watch TV).
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phonebucket将近 7 年前
I am willing to work on something if and only if either of the following holds:<p>1) I find it interesting 2) It is important to my family.
vfinn将近 7 年前
That there isn&#x27;t much&#x2F;anything outside of rationality, so what you should be doing, is get better at being rational &#x2F; make more rational decisions. This applies to interaction with other people (what kind of interactions should you have), what you should be doing or not doing, etc. I feel there are many (silly&#x2F;unreasonable&#x2F;invalid) reasons why people oppose to being more rational. One could be thinking that being too rational is inhumane or that they &quot;just don&#x27;t care&quot;. Both cases should be alarming to oneself.<p>Edit: What I&#x27;m trying to say is that: 1) If you look back, what you appraise are the well-thought decisions you made in most cases; 2) What&#x27;s between these well-thought decisions are often more clutter than there should be, and in the end you end up making the rational decision anyway. You&#x27;re just often postponing it; 3) Being rational is not often an energy intensive decision, but there are other factors (faults that are in the field of your general rational decision making, fears&#x2F;lack of tuning your machinery&#x2F;proneness to procrastination etc.); 4) All of these previous faults fall into the category of self-conscious behavior &#x2F; betterment of your self-consciousness, which both are in the field of rationality... what&#x27;s the core realization&#x2F;ignition for the beginning of this process? Maybe it&#x27;s that there&#x27;s not much outside of rationality, and that &quot;all you are&quot; is a direct result of your rationality.
RickJWagner将近 7 年前
Hollywood has no foundation for offering opinions about morals, family, love or anything else.
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scott911rs将近 7 年前
There are some people with more stories than time to tell them
Rayzar将近 7 年前
<p><pre><code> * There is life after failing at a startup * When building a business, being organized matters more than being smart * Most things in life work out better when taken one step at a time, no matter how slow it feels * Things happen in life all the time. It gets easier when you can identify the ones you can change, which ones you can only change slightly and which ones you have no control over</code></pre>
swanlyk将近 7 年前
I began watching streaming documentaries instead of shows. Listening to non-fiction audiobooks instead of music. Not exclusively but much more so.
csomar将近 7 年前
In no particular order:<p>- You can&#x27;t travel enough. I visited 9 new countries in the last 12 months. Way too little.<p>- Try to experience new things instead of just seeing and selfi-ing them. [ If you go to a new country, go to the rough edges of the city. Go to events but also to night clubs. Talk to people. Go with them on a trip. (Don&#x27;t do crazy things and don&#x27;t harm yourself. I&#x27;m not suggesting stupid behavior). ] [ If you try a new dish, try it again at another restaurant. Learn the recipe. Try to cook it ]. etc...<p>- Push yourself. As much as you can. Don&#x27;t set expectations. I&#x27;ve learned that expectations are what makes you burn out not hard work.<p>- It&#x27;s high time to learn a new language. I master 3 and can understand 4. I&#x27;d say you should at least speak 5 fluently and understand 8.<p>- The reason most people are poor&#x2F;struggle is because they choose to. The reason some people are poor is because they are in a transitional phase. (Barring health conditions and quantum randomness)<p>- Money is very easy to make. But you only realize that once you master the skills&#x2F;processes to make it flow.
ironjunkie将近 7 年前
Business is business. Don&#x27;t expect managers&#x2F;&#x2F;companies to be fair with you. If they can get away with an easy lie, they will.
misterioss将近 7 年前
In every area, there will be two types of people: who likes you and who hates you. It doesn&#x27;t matter who you are and what you do.
Theodores将近 7 年前
That frontend web development is usually executed extremely poorly. The HN crowd is different, however, your average agency is still using processes that pre-date the iPhone, hiring average &#x27;designers&#x27; that create pretty pictures with placeholder copy, average frontend developers that have little interest in accessibility and evolving web standards and project management that keeps backend developers in the dark, all tasks sliced and diced because it is &#x27;agile&#x27;.<p>This represents great opportunity as it is 4x quicker developing with content and the customer first. Clients need not be infuriated by expense, lack of progress and the agony of getting their online business making money.<p>Biggest discovery is thanks to &#x27;Lighthouse&#x27; - it seems most average websites think it is okay to bundle a megabyte of scripts with a page and ten to twenty thousand lines of CSS, 97% of which is not used.
soontobemd55将近 7 年前
There is a real need for technologic improvements in medicine.
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minikomi将近 7 年前
Yoyos and bicycles are a great ways to spend your free time.
jxub将近 7 年前
Passing a driving exam in Spain may suck and not work on the 1st (or the 6th) try, but gosh it leaves some funny stories to tell afterwards.<p>Use a trackball instead of a mouse. Your wrists will thank you for it.<p>People share their feelings more often than I thought. Maybe opening up isn&#x27;t as bad.
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icc97将近 7 年前
After 8 years I&#x27;ve finally come to the end of struggling with working remotely.<p>I&#x27;m going back to 2 hour daily commutes.<p>The flexibility of remote work can be a real problem. It causes arguments because you don&#x27;t have a 3rd party to blame for when you have to be in work or not.
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USANEEDSHELP将近 7 年前
When have been diagnosed with cancer, you hope for a little more time with your loved ones.
hatsunearu将近 7 年前
* Maintaining a C library <i>actually</i> used by many people within the organization taught me how to organize code, release code, take feedback, and make it better.<p>* Same as the above, but for Python.<p>* SIMD Intrinsics for C to add some extra juice to my code.
jeandejean将近 7 年前
I learnt that having a kid would not be the end of my freedom, but rather the end of procrastination: changed jobs, bought a home and I can&#x27;t count how many great and little things I eventually dared and took time to do.
ronald_raygun将近 7 年前
* I find mentoring to be one of the most rewarding things I can do<p>* People wait too long to quit a job or get out a bad situation<p>* Being very deliberate about what you do and who you spend your time with is worth it<p>* Sleeping masks really improve you quality of sleep
jensvdh将近 7 年前
Chronic diseases suck, and you can definitely get them in your 20&#x27;s.
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hutzlibu将近 7 年前
Letting go.<p>There are things that you really want and things that you think you want. The more you focus on the latter, the less likely it is that the things you really want and need, come to you.<p>But after I could let go of arbitrary wishes and ideas, the things I needed came easily.<p>Secondly, even in moments of intense emotional stress(like death of a close one) - never &quot;don&#x27;t give a f<i></i>*&quot;. You still breath as natural as possible, you still try to find to keep your center, your equilibrium. Not also in those moments, but especially in those moments.
HelloFellowDevs将近 7 年前
You&#x27;re health is really more important than time, so invest time into your physical and mental health and it&#x27;ll pay dividends. Few medical scares helped me come to this conclusion.
jessemillar将近 7 年前
- It&#x27;s okay to write code that isn&#x27;t &quot;perfect&quot; but gets the job done.<p>- Make efforts to simplify things and make them maintainable for the future, but not at the expense of your health, well being, or the cohesion of your team.<p>- Stress will kill you and mess with the people around you (especially your spouse). Learn to understand yourself and how you react to emotional stimuli so you can &quot;roll with the punches&quot;.
yoaviram将近 7 年前
We&#x27;ve ether passed, our will pass in the near future several points of no return with regards to our dependence on technology. There&#x27;s a good chance that this will be to our detriment. Here&#x27;s a talk I have about the topic recently with more details: <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;youtu.be&#x2F;q5x7njMMugw" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;youtu.be&#x2F;q5x7njMMugw</a>
kd5bjo将近 7 年前
Avoiding stressful situations is a mistake; it means you stagnate and never get the joy that comes when the situation is resolved.
nabn将近 7 年前
That the solution to anxiety and panic attacks isn&#x27;t &quot;Deal with it! You&#x27;re making others uncomfortable.&quot;
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sp527将近 7 年前
Your ego will tell you your character cannot be meaningfully altered by the people around you. Your ego is a liar.
ainiriand将近 7 年前
Product is king.<p>Execution &gt; idea.<p>All good things in life are hard to get.
adgulacti将近 7 年前
my small family&#x27;s health and happiness above all. first, second and third most important learning.<p>if i feel i need to resign, i need to resign immediately. job hunt is never easy. recruitment process is shit in most companies, almost in all startups. self-motivation is most important. stop depending on external verification. sleep &amp; wake at the same time, spend some time outdoors early in the day, take a look at the sky, smile at the people in subway, say &quot;bless you&quot; when they sneeze. smile especially when you feel bad about the work, smile when the others don&#x27;t smile, help people. stop wasting stupid money, save and spend on what will make the family feel better. berlin, its startups and founders are overrated. still there are some that shine.
kamaal将近 7 年前
Should have learned statistics early.
CalRobert将近 7 年前
* Babies are ten times more time consuming than I thought.<p><i></i> I knew they took all of your time but I never understand what life is like when you have to schedule a task that takes ten minutes for the weekend<p><i></i> But it gets easier and they (well, mine at least :-) ) are absolutely wonderful, or can be at least.<p>* I thought if Trump won I would be glad I left the US. And I am, but it&#x27;s overpowered by a pervasive, ever-present sadness and despair.<p>* Facebook is (was, rather) probably a net negative in my life.
thom将近 7 年前
99% of anything is something else.
jrs95将近 7 年前
A CTO and a VP of Engineering with overlapping functional roles is a very, very bad thing.
KnightOfWords将近 7 年前
Never underestimate a company&#x27;s ability to work against its own interests.
LTjoker将近 7 年前
Food is to share. If not as sustenance, than as the energy to build something.
scottlegrand2将近 7 年前
While money isn&#x27;t everything, it does seem to <i>change</i> everything...
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abvdasker将近 7 年前
It&#x27;s important to vote.
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pontifier将近 7 年前
Judges can rule however they want regardless of the law in question.<p>Politics is a popularity contest, and nobody cares about corruption and the issues.<p>Nobody will stand up for you.<p>If you stand up for yourself, there will probably be consequences.<p>The FBI is scary.
deathanatos将近 7 年前
* It doesn&#x27;t matter <i>what</i> you set your desired location to in LinkedIn. Recruiters are going to look at what you&#x27;ve done in the past, and assume you want <i>more</i> of that.
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kahlonel将近 7 年前
Not eating healthy, and not doing enough exercise seriously messes up the brain functionality. It isn&#x27;t apparent if you&#x27;re young, but it keeps adding up until it explodes.
meiraleal将近 7 年前
Life can be great and very fun and we always have time to get fit.
gunnyguy121将近 7 年前
Some math, some coding, some physics, and way more about Abraham Lincoln than I&#x27;ll ever need to know(I&#x27;m still a student). Moving on isn&#x27;t as easy as it seems.
koosnel将近 7 年前
Spending extra on a good mechanical keyboard is worth it.
jwally将近 7 年前
Outsourcing a problem because you don&#x27;t understand it or want to work on it will make the problem worse and you poorer.
Tade0将近 7 年前
People in this industry are generally competent and willing to work.<p>Leadership is a variable though. And it can make or break a project.
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serpix将近 7 年前
Enough sleep comes before everything and everyone.<p>Optional typing (like clojure. spec, plumatic schema) beats static typing.
ironjunkie将近 7 年前
when you feel it is time to move, move fast and don&#x27;t wait X more months to confirm it and make sure of it 100%. (talking about job here more specifically)<p>Life is short, there is no time for procrastination for a shitty job, relation or anything else that doesn&#x27;t bring you anything anymore
shankr将近 7 年前
I need a relationship and it doesn&#x27;t come easy when you are brown gay living in a white country.
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youdontknowtho将近 7 年前
I&#x27;m not cynical enough.<p>I still have the capacity to be surprised by the mundane.<p>It not only can get worse, it is getting worse.
andersthue将近 7 年前
That self betrayal is the root of all my suffering.<p>Read the “The Anatomy of Peace” for full explanation.
factorialboy将近 7 年前
Invest in yourself.<p>If your work is too important, then invest in yourself some more.<p>More performant self = Better output.
momentmaker将近 7 年前
There is a life force (energy) that&#x27;s powering every living thing on this planet.
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amorphid将近 7 年前
That confronting one&#x27;s fears head on can be an amazing way to build confidence.
canterburry将近 7 年前
The same the 12 months before did... That I know a lot less than I thought I do.
clintonb将近 7 年前
Heroes can be disappointing.
tugberkk将近 7 年前
That I should have not started to pursue a PhD degree here in my country.
chadcmulligan将近 7 年前
How to recognise and safely ignore narcissists, thanks president trump!
spookyuser将近 7 年前
This thread is pretty cool, could be a standalone site.
GrumpyNl将近 7 年前
Cryptos are a scam.
cygned将近 7 年前
Communication is the key factor for success.
ojr将近 7 年前
contrary to popular belief, rushing to the market with a product you don&#x27;t feel is ready can hurt more than help
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bsvalley将近 7 年前
Crypto currencies are a hell of a ride ;)
orschiro将近 7 年前
To do less but focus deeply.
frankthrowaway将近 7 年前
I learned a lot about the habits of intelligent affluent people. My sample size is very low, but it was an interesting year in that regard since I&#x27;ve never seen anything quite like it. Some things seem obvious, some didn&#x27;t, you&#x27;ll learn them a lot faster if you&#x27;re somehow in the middle of it.<p>Warning: based on anecdata<p>* Look at a cosmopolitan city center. Everyone who owns a house debt free there is rich.<p>* Look again at said center, most likely the owners aren&#x27;t from your country (except US probably).<p>* Conservative rich people invest heavily in the housing market.<p>* The amount of rich people having some emotional understanding of working on a per hour basis, or working for a normal wage in general, is low.<p>* I&#x27;ve seen people in a relationship from different income classes, some definitely have it tough to understand each other. I haven&#x27;t seen anyone break because of it, but I wouldn&#x27;t be surprised if it happened with a fraction of them. Hypothetical example, combine it with stereotypical gender ideals (e.g. man must pay) and a SO (woman) that has expensive hobbies, the working-class man cannot keep up.<p>* My prediction on: the rich friend determines what&#x27;s going to happen if he&#x2F;she pays was dead on. I also predicted it might erode such a relationship when money comes too much into play, which I was partially right about.<p>* The claim that most wealth is inherited seems to be true from my personal experience. Consequently, most people don&#x27;t know how to get rich but how to stay rich.<p>* Some rich people get a really amazing education and are polymaths by the time they get into their twenties. Some rich people are more the opposite.<p>* All in all, I feel money is a multiplier on a lot of things. I know that, for me, money will be a multiplier on the expression of my personality. If you are into new age stuff, then as a rich person you have a new age house, for example. If you&#x27;re a sci-fi person, then you&#x27;ll have a techy house.<p>---- Jobs ----<p>* People don&#x27;t value your computer science degree at all if they studied a shitty study program (any) and hate university because of it and don&#x27;t have experience with hiring CS grads. It turns out, that&#x27;s still a rather large group.<p>* Corollary: people don&#x27;t evaluate your experience in the right way.<p>* When people see the word &quot;internship&quot; they see it as no experience, despite the fact that the programming work was more demanding than most employees there.<p>* Interviewing in startups doesn&#x27;t follow any sane process. To do: I need to figure out how to to get some understanding on a startup&#x27;s culture in less than 2 hours.<p>Thanks for the question, these 12 months have been emotionally weird. I guess I needed to vent a bit. Dealing with income inequality from so close all of a sudden feels tough, but I&#x27;m fine right? So why should it be? Hence it&#x27;s weird.
gargravarr将近 7 年前
Never.<p>Trust.<p>Computers.
bradlys将近 7 年前
If they&#x27;re not hiring engineers for the company after the engineers quit - they&#x27;re never going to. It&#x27;s just a show and they&#x27;ll continue to make up excuses.<p>Look up the past experience of new management and the makeup of the company they were at. It&#x27;s likely that new management was brought in to bring the same kind of management they were doing. i.e. if they outsource engineering at the previous company, they&#x27;re probably going to do it to yours. This is your way of finding out what is coming before they actually announce it.<p>If a sexual harassment lawsuit comes out against the company or people in the company and anyone is even partially guilty - no matter who they are - fire anyone involved and replace them even faster. If you&#x27;re an employee that is not involved with the issue, leave the company ASAP. It&#x27;s unlikely the company will do the former until it&#x27;s too late and thus you will see every possible metric plummet.<p>If management has a tendency to not replace people <i>very quickly</i> - they are either never replacing them or they just don&#x27;t give a shit. Either way, get out.<p>If management is making their calendars private - they don&#x27;t value transparency no matter what they say. Something is probably happening that they don&#x27;t want you to know - and it&#x27;s never something good.<p>I need to study technical interview problems on a more regular basis if I want to get a new job. Big Company interviews are harder than ever.<p>$500k&#x2F;yr is kind of obtainable in the bay area for a single earner. It&#x27;s also the only way I&#x27;ll ever afford the region (in terms of a family w&#x2F; a home). I need to start thinking about alternative plans.<p>I&#x27;ve learned that I need to optimize for financial gains at a much faster rate than I have. I&#x27;m now giving up on every other goal for the moment because they just don&#x27;t matter in comparison. I&#x27;ve realized now I should&#x27;ve held out for better offers and studied harder last year. My $30k&#x2F;yr jump in comp could&#x27;ve been $100k and I should&#x27;ve studied harder and interviewed at more big companies. I&#x27;ve also learned I should not stay at a company for a year in hopes to &quot;learn something&quot;. Just optimize for $$$ because experience will follow no matter where you go.<p>If your partner is a drama queen or just gets upset all the time (short of you giving 100% of everything you have to them) - it&#x27;s definitely them and not you. You have to let them grow up and focus on your own shit. You can&#x27;t let another person suck all your energy away - they should be giving you energy and not taking it all away.<p>If you&#x27;ve been waiting to get something for a decade or what not - the inevitable getting of it is probably going to be wildly underwhelming. You spent too long waiting for it. :( In my case, it was a motorcycle. I had wanted one for 8+ years but inevitably when I did get one - it was and still is underwhelming. Unfortunately, I don&#x27;t get to ride it much now anyway since I&#x27;m so focused on studying and don&#x27;t see that changing for a while.
kszxgz将近 7 年前
(1.) Peace through humility.<p>* The humble live in continuous peace, while in the hearts of the proud are envy and frequent anger.<p>(2.) Establish constructive, rational ways of thinking.<p>* Constructive thinking is defined as &quot;the degree to which a person&#x27;s automatic thinking ... facilitates solving problems in everyday life at a minimum cost in stress.&quot;<p>* The more constructively you think, the happier you feel, and the better your emotional adjustment.<p>(3.) Strive for joy and contentment, not happiness.<p>* It’s important to make a distinction between joy and happiness. Happiness is circumstantial, like the pleasure that comes from eating ice cream on a sunny day at the beach. Such happiness is slippery and can vanish in a second. But joy is different. At the very least, it isn’t based on circumstances, which means it can’t be taken away<p>(4.) Enable contentment.<p>* “Though a good dinner is not to be despised — yet it is not worthy to be compared with a contented mind, which is a continual feast.”<p>* Contentment may be particularly useful for counteracting problems that stem from fear and anxiety.<p>(5.) Be patient.<p>* That’s what patience is. It’s being able to have this sense, in the middle of craziness, that all is not necessarily well according to circumstances, but all is well. Patience is being rooted in something outside of yourself, even when our hearts are weak and frail.<p>* Listen patiently and with an open mind.<p>(6.) Reduce negative emotions.<p>* Distorted evaluation of our performance in front of other people is the reason for depression and anxiety.<p>* Most negative emotions are completely useless. Resentment, bitterness, hate, and jealousy have never improved the quality of life for a single human being.<p>(7.) Purity and simplicity give freedom.<p>* “Purity and simplicity are the two wings with which man soars above the earth and all temporary nature.”<p>* The happiest homes in the world are not those in which are the finest carpets, the costliest pictures, the most luxurious furniture — but those in which glad, peaceful hearts dwell.<p>(8.) Build beautiful habits.<p>* Most of the choices we make each day may feel like the products of well-considered decision making, but they’re not. They’re habits.<p>* Create healthful, beautiful habits to live sustainably and achieve long-term goals.<p>(9.) Exercise regularly.<p>* Regular cardio exercise can help you sleep better, feel more alert and energetic, and enjoy reduced risks for cancer, diabetes and osteoporosis.<p>(10.) Eat healthily.<p>* The key public health challenge today is to reduce intake of all highly processed carbohydrates in favor of whole carbohydrates (fruits, vegetables, legumes and minimally processed grains) and healthful fats (like nuts, avocado and olive oil).
bechampion将近 7 年前
showing up wins.
BJanecke将近 7 年前
humility
icantdrive55将近 7 年前
The unemployment numbers don&#x27;t mean much. This economy is hanging on by by a few sectors that are barely successful. The 1% won. And when I watch Norma Rae--I realize that movie couldn&#x27;t be made today. The cotton owners just moved the machines to another county--eliminating unions, and workers.<p>Oh yea, opiate addiction is not due to befuddled doctors, and corporations. It&#x27;s due to a country wide depression. People are misserable on so many levels, while spirituality is kinda dead.
anoncoward111将近 7 年前
That love and freedom are 1000000x more important than money, career, and status
yukidaruma90将近 7 年前
* Write technical posts are a good way to learn. * Use less SNS and do more useful work.
potatoblaster将近 7 年前
There is a difference between engineers and developers. Engineers are annoying AF.
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RHSman2将近 7 年前
Having started a business&#x2F;startup solo, gained traction and moved to a company with all my IP and experience (into a senior equity bearing role) I have learnt more in one year than the rest of my 40 years. However, I’d distill it into:<p>Our lives are our own making. We are given where we landed on this earth but the rest is up to you and how you deal with the challenges.