It's clear to me that there are two distinct camps in scenarios like this:<p>There's one camp (camp A) whose cultural norms contain offensive practices to those outside of the culture, and another camp (camp B) who perceives those norms at face value, without context and <i>intent</i>, for their offense. Another poster here used <i>The F Word (South Park)</i> as a great example of this.<p>> This behavior of male-on-male aggression seemed to be a mechanism of asserting control.<p>I don't know where Barry gets this, and it's written like a National Geographic-esque piece of a man trying to understand the actions and intents of animals in the Serengeti. He doesn't "get" them, cannot establish trust, and as a result can't influence anyone in this piece's mind about how these actions are perceived by others outside of camp A.<p>> now I am having to speak to you like an exasperated camp counselor.<p>This is reinforced by statements like this. This isn't edifying. This is belittling, and completely ineffective. Barry's downfall here is that he believes this is "the long game, and slow and steady would win the race." He's correct, but his execution is fruitless.<p>Instead, what about trying to befriend these people, and then have down to earth dialogues such as, "I'm not trying to be a buzzkill, but maybe we could tone it down with the rape stuff, my dudes. It's kinda not cool."<p>I'm sure there are better methods for getting the idea across, but ultimately you change people's hearts and minds by appealing to them and winning them over.