I was mistaken for a call girl

If an old man shows up to watch the high school girl&#x27;s volleyball matches daily, maybe he really likes volleyball, right?<p>An old woman would definitely have the privilege of that assumption. An old man wouldn&#x27;t.<p>Welcome to society, it will never be perfect and that&#x27;s ok. Trying to turn the dials and create a perfect one is the stuff of comic book villains. It looks like the west has solved so much that it is starting to go backwards. In the third world we have actual cases of families forcing daughters to stay home or worse, get married at 17. Give me a break with this Nerf ball stuff.

I find the conclusion took a strange turn from the story:<p>&gt; Those women who were complicit in hashtag crimes have actually undermined the cause, taken us back years in our endeavor to be taken seriously.<p>The people fighting to prevent sexual attacks would generally also acknowledge other areas for improvement. Saying that you have different priorities is acceptable. But denying their priorities is not. That they are causing more sexism elsewhere is a long shot. It is not even connected to the main story.

The managers retreat into my business my rules is a common response from people unable to deal with being caught out wrong. If you&#x27;re unwilling to apologize, acknowledge mistakes, asserted rights are the joker card?

As a woman, I really think there’s more to the story then she’s telling us. I’ve seen this same story that she’s been blasting to several websites, and I honestly can’t picture this. I’ve sat at the bar alone eating, drinking, or just staring at my phone, many times in many big cities traveling. I’ve never gotten so much as a cross-word from anyone. So I call BS on this. There’s more going on here that we’re not being told.

This seems not worth the effort it took to write. She&#x27;s an excellent writer though.

Now try being an “unaccompanied male” on a playground filled with children and see what happens.<p><a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.examinerlive.co.uk&#x2F;news&#x2F;police-called-after-man-seen-14990130" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.examinerlive.co.uk&#x2F;news&#x2F;police-called-after-man-...</a><p>People make judgments about other people. They base them on a mixture of accurate, incomplete and inaccurate data. They base them on their own biases and perceptions. They base them on their own agendas and lack of time to explain them.<p>These events aren’t article worthy.

I felt immediately sympathetic to this article. The tale of everyday injustice is something that speaks to me, makes me want to change things. However when I see #MeToo, I feel much less sympathetic. Why ? Because it paints a single enemy : men, and as a man who does not feel at all like he behaves in the way often described next to this hashtag, <i>I</i> feel an injustice. The MeToo campaign is creating too camps, and a such it can create entrenched or retaliatory positions like this restaurant owner. A war is not something anyone should want.

It this legal in New York?<p>Where a man is allowed to eat at a bar but a woman is not?

This is awful! When these things happen, why don&#x27;t people name names? What restaurant did this????

article it&#x27;s missing name of the restaurant, so don&#x27;t waste your time, might as well read Harry Potter. if it&#x27;s not made up story she should name and shame them

I don&#x27;t get the hn algo, but how did I click this, presumably on the front page, now to find it in the very very last place (entry 441) of hn?<p>srceenshot of page 15, showing older dupes with less votes above: <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;i.imgur.com&#x2F;ibnV65s.png" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;i.imgur.com&#x2F;ibnV65s.png</a><p>edit: now it&#x27;s gone from p15<p>edit2: if this would have been transparently flagged as off-topic for HN I&#x27;d understand. But given the content of the article this is sadly ironic, I really hope there is a &quot;mechanical&quot; explanation for this.

Maybe it is because man usually arent call girls?

Eh, they can&#x27;t prove who is or is not a call girl. They have blunt tools at their disposal for trying to &quot;crack down&quot; on this, such as saying &quot;Hookers typically sit alone at the bar. So no more single women sitting alone at the bar.&quot;<p>I&#x27;m not saying it&#x27;s fair. I&#x27;m just saying they may have valid reasons for the policy of cracking down on sex workers and they don&#x27;t need to have actually mistaken her for a sex worker per se to decide this policy applies to her.

This is how woman start getting serious for such silly issues.<p>The problem with citizens of developed countries or those with rich background is, they haven&#x27;t seen how real problems look like.<p>They usually cry for very silly things.<p>Things cannot be perfect.<p>The more woman ask for equality, the more alone they are going to end up, because men feel fearful even for approaching, who knowns what kind of mentality the other person have.

Discrimination? For a reason or another they thought she was an escort and they don&#x27;t like that kind of activity in their establishment. Maybe she was, maybe she wasn&#x27;t.<p>She says no, but very few would admit. Either way, maybe they don&#x27;t even like single, pretty women looking for their &quot;knight in shining armor&quot; at an expensive restaurant. It ruins their image and they don&#x27;t that kind of a crowd. Just like they would not guys coming at the bar laughing and screaming with a couple of escorts.<p>Not exactly sexual discrimination, as they&#x27;d almost certainly ban guys that are touchy feely with female guests. More like trying to preserve their reputation and business, false positives and all. You can&#x27;t really ask to see their Whatsapp or FB messages to investigate...