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How to Kill the Toxic Ego That Will Ruin Your Life

111 点作者 omilu超过 6 年前

10 条评论

rabidrat超过 6 年前
Overall this article has some really good advice. But I have come to realize that a violent stance--&quot;fighting&quot; to &quot;kill&quot; a &quot;toxic ego&quot;--reinforces a separate, negative part of yourself, and it becomes stronger, subtler, and can eventually become another kind of ego on its own. Ego is all about division and separation, and to truly diminish its hold, we have to take another approach: to embrace it (but not to indulge it), to understand it, to invite it to tea.<p>In today&#x27;s egotistic world, we need to cultivate a healthy ego, so that we don&#x27;t sacrifice ourselves to unworthy causes. Ego is an important psychological tool that, when wielded wisely (with intention and awareness, as the article points out), can be very powerful and positive. We just need to make sure that we&#x27;re in the driver&#x27;s seat and that we don&#x27;t let it take over. And especially that we don&#x27;t come to believe that our collection of ideas about ourselves <i>IS</i> ourselves; as long as we remember that it&#x27;s just a game--a mask, or a shield that can be dropped at a moment&#x27;s notice--then we&#x27;ll be okay.
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eplanit超过 6 年前
2 articles on the HN front page have &quot;toxic&quot; in the title. Indeed, &quot;toxic&quot; was the Oxford dictionary&#x27;s 2018 word of the year[1].<p>We&#x27;re sheep.<p>[1] <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.oxforddictionaries.com&#x2F;word-of-the-year&#x2F;word-of-the-year-2018" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.oxforddictionaries.com&#x2F;word-of-the-year&#x2F;word-of-t...</a>
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motohagiography超过 6 年前
The article includes this tendency to equate ego with what is essentially a secular state of sin, instead of looking behind what ego might be. The view reinforces the just world fallacy that good things happen to good people, if only they could be without ego - and failure can be attributed to said ego&#x27;s conceits.<p>It&#x27;s too much to unwrap in a comment, but suffice it to say, while some of this can be helpful to someone in need of it, one would not be alone if they found it cynical and trite.
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PedroBatista超过 6 年前
I know this article is just marketing content to sell a book, but it would be nice for the author to fully present at least one of his &quot;exercises&quot; for one of his bullet points.<p>I wonder how much of these &quot;traits&quot; (?) are just how some people are and they can&#x27;t do much about it no matter how they try.
crimsonalucard超过 6 年前
Ego like many other human traits exists because it helped us survive. Every trait you possess no matter how negative it seems exists because it passed the filter of natural selection.<p>Ego blinds you to the darkness and weakness of yourself. We lie to ourselves to create a delusion that keeps.us moving forward.
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SolaceQuantum超过 6 年前
I have some concerns with this article&#x27;s advisement. It essentially boils down to stay humble, proactive, and aware. But certain kinds of advice are entirely unnuanced, for example, &quot;dead time&quot; vs &quot;alive time&quot; may mean that someone really needs the rest! Similarly, focusing on effort and not the end goal is not always amenable to reality- it doesn&#x27;t matter how much you worked at a startup if your stocks ultimately end up shitty.<p>Of course, this article aims to kill ego, not actually enrich the person&#x27;s life. Killing one&#x27;s ego can also ruin one&#x27;s life just as easily as an ego too alive.
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cicero超过 6 年前
&gt; 10. Connect with nature and the universe at large... 18. Choose love.<p>Even better, seek the creator of the universe and the source of love. Many people come to the conclusion that since science has enabled us to understand so much about how our universe works, we can jettison the idea of a creator. However, the contingent nature of our universe and everything in it requires a cause that is not contingent, and religion, especially Christianity, has been telling us about that non-contingent cause for centuries. I urge people to seek out that cause by looking to the testimony of the generations of good people who claim to know this cause.
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debt超过 6 年前
Ego flourishes in situations that have room for it.<p>In dire situations and extreme circumstances, ego really is a killer because time is precious and is wasted by ego. Thus killing not only your ego, but also the project itself, other people’s ego, careers etc. Ego in a dire situation is like a pressure cooker.<p>So the best way to kill the ego is get yourself into extreme circumstances; BASE jumping or insanely unrealistic project deadlines etc.
throwaway30193超过 6 年前
The majority of those talking points are solidly rooted in Buddhism, and especially Zen Buddhism.<p>Perhaps that sounds too &quot;hippy&quot; to their readers, but doing a bit of research and quoting the original sources would be nice.
HellDunkel超过 6 年前
constantly worrying about improving and optimizing yourself. is this feeding or fighting the toxic ego?