As a middle-aged, conservative, Christian middle class white guy I can see you're pretty far to the left, but I'm not feeling the animus from you that I usually feel. Good for you -- your focus on love is working.<p>There is a song by Sinead O'Connor in which as an Irish woman she sings a song of unrequited love to Britain. It is so vulnerable and resonates for me as an Irish American. There is a place for confrontative songs (Stevie Wonder's Living for the City is an example from my generation) but how wonderful would it be for a black singer to sing a song like that to white America? "We have such a rich history together. We are as American as you can get! Ours should be a love story!"<p>Emotionally and even from the standpoint of cool strategy and tactics, the approach of foisting unending guilt on whites for being who they are is a losing proposition. The critical theory approach just makes no sense. You are right to focus on love -- something that can't be forced, but which people are more willing to give than you think. We just all need to love. And I can tell you from my marriage that I am much more willing to respond to my wife telling me that I have hurt her and let her down than to her telling me how angry she is.