If you're reading this, there's a pretty solid chance that you're a male working in the software industry.<p>It is super, super critical for you to know: <i>this happens where you work, too</i>.<p>No, not "this could happen where you work." I'm telling you that if you work with women in engineering, they deal with this shit anywhere from weekly to hourly.<p>It comes from "the nice manager," from a QA on another team, from a tech lead, from a customer.<p>Misogyny and harassment <i>are happening around you</i>, and you need to be looking for it.<p>If your first thought upon reading this was "well, I'm just glad that could never happen <i>here</i>," you are wrong, and you need to be on your guard.