I think low ego people attract low ego people. Some are naturally better at detecting this than others.<p>The problem is that high ego people have a really bad radar for this stuff and attract high ego people, and for some reason they think that they're also low ego.<p>I adopted some ideas from Ray Dalio, but essentially, pain -> fear -> empowerment -> confidence -> ego (-> = creates). It's actual work to keep yourself from having a high ego, esp. as you naturally advance in life. Maybe I have a naturally high ego, but I have to do things like:<p>- Practice self awareness through journaling and introspection
- Medidate, think rationally, respond but don't react
- Assume that there's always a lesson in pain
- Assume that if I'm mad at someone, I'm missing some piece of info about them or the situation (~90% accurate)
- Read books
- Talk to people who have achieved more and are generally just nicer to be around than me.
- When I'm wrong, verbally admit it to myself and anyone else involved.
- Constantly be open to learning how imperfect I am.<p>So then I would just ask them: "What do you do to manage your own ego?" It's principally the same question as what do you do to manage your emotions such as fear and happiness, etc. But unless you can deeply answer these yourself, as I claim above, you probably won't be able to assess whether they're giving you a high or low ego answer.<p>^ These are my thoughts, I'm not claiming that I'm 100% right.