If-im-gone – A cheat sheet for if I am somehow incapacitated

Dupe: &quot;Cheat sheet for if I&#x27;m gone&quot;<p><a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=31748553" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;news.ycombinator.com&#x2F;item?id=31748553</a> <i>(495 points | 16 days ago | 189 comments)</i>

My wife died unexpectedly a year ago. A little before that I had set her up with a 1Password account and she had diligently moved all her details into it. She shared her master password with me.<p>It was an incredible lifesaver in the first few months. Everything was really easy to get in order, and anything that wasn&#x27;t well documented, I could find in her laptop or inbox.<p>I&#x27;m so glad that she did it, and it saved us so much headache.<p>Banking and such things are the easy bit, they&#x27;ve got streamlined and established bereavement processes. It&#x27;s all the other small stuff that&#x27;s hard, like loyalty cards, airmiles, gym memberships etc that causes the headaches.

Not enough detail to be useful as more than a prod.<p>Personally I prefer <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;getyourshittogether.org" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;getyourshittogether.org</a>

There is a legal process in the US for leaving behind an estate, a trust, or a will. This repo is not going to work except as notes for things which really should be in one of those legal workflows anyway.

Disability companies will absolutely lie and mislead you. They will say they will call all your doctors and get what they need. They will not. They will not return your call even if you call twice a day for months on end.<p>So if you are injured be prepared to quickly get a lawyer.

Not detailed or “legal” enough, even based on the creators commits.<p>I highly suggest to contact an estate planner and &#x2F; or use the Nolo published Guides and website -<p><a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.nolo.com&#x2F;legal-encyclopedia&#x2F;wills-trusts-estates" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.nolo.com&#x2F;legal-encyclopedia&#x2F;wills-trusts-estates</a><p>Otherwise you risk anything you wrote be invalidated and ineffective when you need these documents the most.

Ok. Assuming you don&#x27;t trust systems of law or for whatever reason prefer systems of tech I guess this works. Got to admit though, it feels less like a cheat sheet and more like being delegated a bunch of paperwork. I was hoping for something a bit less pedestrian than bank accounts and mortgages. My personal &quot;in case of imminent nuclear war draft email to everyone&quot; is about all the personal projects I&#x27;m not going to be able to finish myself anymore so here&#x27;s some code for whoever wants to pick it up. Sure, my version also arguably hands unfinished work to people, but at least its more interesting work than &quot;please go stand in line at the bank on my behalf.&quot; Its certainly a better way to remember me than &quot;here&#x27;s a few words, now pass the shovel.&quot;

I have a special document in case I die. It has<p>- My password for bitwarden and the MFA codes. This is in addition to the fact that we share important logins with the family<p>- List of banks to contact<p>- List of people to contact in the office to get information about insurance, bonuses etc.<p>- Information about where the important papers are<p>- A description of how to de-automate my house<p>My wife has a copy, and do does my best friend. He surprised me messy year when he told me he could not access my bank account. When I asked him WTF, he said that he is doing a DRP test :) And he find a flaw.<p>People ask me if I am depressed when I tell them about that. For me this is a natural thing to do to help those left behind.

I have most of my data in self-hosted systems, so there&#x27;s no central authority to provide access if something happens to me. I&#x27;ve been pondering a system that could transfer control&#x2F;release information to my wife if something happens to me.<p>One of the problems with secured paper storage of this sort of thing is keeping it updated. A lot of this stuff won&#x27;t stay accurate forever. But obviously digital storage can be a huge risk.

After Covid I kept going back to the idea of building something simple for my wife ( not the most technical user ever and I hate updating stuff manually ), but it remains an unfinished project at this time.<p>Its not like there is a lot, but passwords and some contacts do change and I want to be able to pass all relevant details should anything major happen.

It&#x27;s good to have easily-findable records of your assets, but the more important thing is to actually have the operative documents of a will and powers of attorney. Having a list of assets and debts doesn&#x27;t help much if you still have to go to court and get a guardianship if you have a stroke.

There are services out there like everplans.com that handle this. There’s also the simpler and more basic deadmansswitch.net<p>Get a lawyer and do real estate planning, in either case.