The problem isn’t you. The problem is the problem.

We are facing something of the situation.<p>There is a problem in the product and we find ourselves questioning our ability, motivation and everything else.<p>Thanks for the post

This is a general life rule.<p>The amount of hobbies I have started at and not enjoyed the first few sessions, then blamed not keeping going on my own persistence rather than admitting either A: it's too hard, or B: I don't actually enjoy it as much as I thought I would (Both of which tie in somewhat, people generally excel at what they enjoy).<p>The amount of times I used to blame any failed conversation on myself until a friend simply said (something along the lines of) "It takes two to chat". Also applies more generally to relationships, both of which can be hard to manage.<p>I'm sure there are many more examples, knowing your limits is key to being happy with your achievements.

Well, that has already happened to me sometimes. Everytime that happens, I get a little down. Makes no good.<p>The problem isn’t you. The problem is the problem. My new mantra (:

This is great advice that I've found to be useful when applied to management too.<p>It can be valuable to look at mistakes in a team as not something that is created by individuals, but as something that is the by product by a larger system with a bug in it. You can fix bugs in a system and the system gets better, but it's much harder to try to fix people (short of the easy answer which is to fire and replace).

This would work until you meet someone who gives you an insightful idea five minutes after hearing your problem while you've been breaking your head on it for a couple of days. I've lost track of the number of times I've felt like an idiot.