Yes, but it's necessary.<p>Because just be yourself works well in Disney movies, but IRL, we have social norms and many reward/punishment systems depending on how much and often you deviate from them.<p>So you have to find a balance between being genuine and fitting in. Everybody does, but for some of us, it's more costly. Usually, the balance is achieved by having different groups in which you can adjust the cursor differently, like work, friends and family, if you are lucky.