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How to do hard things

456 点作者 tacon大约 2 年前

18 条评论

ChrisMarshallNY大约 2 年前
It&#x27;s a good (long) read, and has some valuable insights.<p>That said, I&#x27;ve been living these principles since I was 18 (long story, lots of tears, bring a hanky).<p>I can tell you that anyone can benefit from this.<p>But most simply, if there were one single trait that I think has been key for me; it&#x27;s been self-discipline. It has paid off all over the place.<p><i>Finishing</i> stuff takes a great deal of what people like to call &quot;grit.&quot; There&#x27;s a <i>ton</i> of unpleasant, boring, hard-to-digest stuff, in delivering a finished product. In many cases, it can be more than half the project.<p>In my experience, not giving up, and powering through the &quot;boring bits,&quot;, when, what I wanted to do, was go into a fetal position under my desk, and sob into Mr. Floppy Ear Bunny, has done the trick.<p>It also does wonders for self-image, and self-confidence (which, unfortunately, is often interpreted as &quot;arrogance&quot; -nothing is perfect).<p>I&#x27;ve found that starting the day at 5AM, and with a 5Km walk (which I <i>hate</i>), is useful. Everything after that, is gravy. Real gym rats beat that handily. Many of my friends work out for a couple of hours before getting into work.
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haswell大约 2 年前
I was not previously aware of ACT, but as someone who went down a rabbit hole of mindfulness meditation with a side of (secular) Buddhist philosophy, it struck me how similar some aspects of this are. In particular, the focus on aversion and the realization that aversion is usually worse than whatever pain is involved in the thing we’re avoiding.<p>Going down this particular path has been life changing as someone who grew up in an environment that essentially conditioned me to default to aversion&#x2F;avoidance, a default that culminated in a pretty big burnout.<p>Realizing that aversion&#x2F;avoidance was almost always much worse than the thing I was avoiding was a major aha moment, and realizing that this could be corrected is when my life started changing.<p>Whether it’s ACT or some form of mindfulness+related philosophy, I can’t recommend this kind of internal exploration enough. The associated mental shifts are like freeing up numerous processor cores that were previously consumed by unhelpful thoughts and feelings.<p>Mindfulness meditation was the tool that made this go from something that I knew intellectually, to something I could observe directly within myself. Once you can <i>see</i> these things clearly, changing them becomes far easier.
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bityard大约 2 年前
I think military folks sum all of this up as &quot;embrace the suck.&quot; :)<p>&gt; A mentor of mine likes to talk about experiential avoidance as a sort of &quot;reverse compass.&quot; When we notice the desire to avoid something, it may actually be telling us what we need to move toward.<p>I rarely get life-changing advice from a podcast, but something I heard one time really stuck with me. This super-successful guy was talking about all the businesses he owned or something and the host asked him what his morning routine looked like. Paraphrasing, his answer was:<p>&quot;After I&#x27;ve gone through my normal morning activities, I sit down and make a list of the things I need to do that day. I always look through the list and find the thing I want to do least, and I do that one first. Because I have found the things I don&#x27;t want to do are almost always the most important.&quot;
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mklepaczewski大约 2 年前
If any method depends on me initiating some action, it won&#x27;t work for me. My brain will not only say &quot;No&quot;, but it&#x27;ll also often just shut up, not give any feedback and proceed to procrastinate.<p>For me, procrastination has some similarities to addiction. If I&#x27;m on a streak, I can maintain it. If I fail once, it&#x27;s really hard to get back to it. I may be productive for a week, but sooner or later, something is going to happen that will allow me to procrastinate. When this happens, I&#x27;m like an addict, I&#x27;m not satisfied with a small dosage, and all limits are off. I know I should be working instead of watching Youtube. I don&#x27;t want to do it, and I know I will regret it. All this happens while I&#x27;m typing &quot;youtube.com&quot; into my browser&#x27;s address bar.<p>Various methods work on various people. Experiment and try different methods. Don&#x27;t confuse it with trying multiple implementations of one method - if you tried two to-do list apps and it didn&#x27;t work for you, skip the to-do lists and move to something else. My method is body doubling, but YMMV. Once you find a method that works for you, revisit previous productivity methods - they may supplement your productivity
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civilized大约 2 年前
ACT helped me turn around my life at a low point in my mid 20s. The problem it helped me with was essentially the same as what it helped this author with - how to do hard things.<p>The short answer is, if you accept that it&#x27;s going to be hard, you can focus on the problem rather than how stuck and frustrated you are, and that helps you to not make it harder than it needs to be.<p>Of course, a person who needs help needs more than the short answer; in particular, we often need a lot of unlearning of bad mental habits, and we need to hear exactly what ACT is saying and, sometimes more importantly, what it is <i>not</i> saying... because we tend to hear what we expect to hear, not what is actually being said.<p>Here&#x27;s the self-study book I used: <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;Get-Your-Mind-Into-Life&#x2F;dp&#x2F;1572244259" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.amazon.com&#x2F;Get-Your-Mind-Into-Life&#x2F;dp&#x2F;1572244259</a><p>Highly recommend.
PuppyTailWags大约 2 年前
Genuine question: are ADHD people inherently disabled in developing self-discipline due to their brain wiring? [I mean disabled in the sense of &quot;they need external assistance or must put way more effort&quot;, in the same way someone with a muscular disorder might need a cane or put way more effort into walking.]
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eur0pa大约 2 年前
My brief 2¢, and also my own way of doing hard things: you&#x27;re allowed to complain. I&#x27;ve been in strength training for 15+ years, and as fellow weightlifters know it never ever get easier (if it does, you&#x27;re doing it wrong). Sometimes I really don&#x27;t feel like it, even after all these years, and I complain about it. I complain all the way to the gym, complain through every set of heavy squats, huff and puff each set of sumos, complain all the way home, whine up the stairs, and finally complain in, under, and out of the shower.
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cracrecry大约 2 年前
I do very hard things and while I do most of the things the author does at some degree(embracing the suck), in my experience it is not the best personal strategy for dealing with this.<p>For me the secret is like the famous Article says: &quot;Attention is all you need&quot;. I distract my attention on how much &quot;boring&quot;, or &quot;painful&quot; or &quot;humiliating&quot; some work that I believe is important is.<p>I just do the work until the work is finished, but I should not feel bored, pain or humiliated while doing it.<p>If you feel it,It depends on the difficulty of your job, if the difficulty is not that much you can deal with it without problems but if it is hard you will eventually collapse, break down and burn out.<p>I use instrumental music for that and also habits. I also reward myself for the good work done.
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nntwozz大约 2 年前
Great if it works, but also be aware of the criticism against ACT for being promoted as &quot;the proverbial holy grail of psychological therapies&quot;.<p>More on wikipedia:<p>In 2012, ACT appeared to be about as effective as standard CBT, with some meta-analyses showing small differences in favor of ACT and others not. For example, a meta-analysis published by Francisco Ruiz in 2012 looked at 16 studies comparing ACT to standard CBT.
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Buttons840大约 2 年前
This got me thinking about side-projects, things I consider my life&#x27;s work, but yet I make little progress on.<p>It feels like my programming job clutters my mind with concerns about work. Then, when I try to program for myself, on my side-projects, I find everything is already cluttered with worries about work, and I end up making little progress.<p>Or, it may simply be that work makes me tired, and when I&#x27;m tired I don&#x27;t want to work on side-projects?<p>Has anyone moved away from programming as a job and found it helps them focus on their side-projects better?<p>I can (1) find a different type of day job (non-programming), and&#x2F;or (2) work fewer hours at my day job, and&#x2F;or (3) find a day job that I personally find meaningful. Of these, which is most important and realistic?
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badpun大约 2 年前
I dunno, I just do things because doing them is clearly a good deal for me. E.g. the amount of money the job will pay me at the end of the month is worth the amount of misery it causes. My &quot;secret&quot; is to have a very low cost of living, so basically every a monthly salary covers a year&#x27;s worth of living expenses. And, every year at work is basically a decade shaved off of the total employment time (and a decade closer to early retirement).<p>With math like this, it&#x27;s not that hard to motivate oneself. Which makes me think, if people are having a hard time motivating themselves do to things they ostensibly want to do, maybe doing them is not in their best interest (e.g. too risky, reward to far away, reward to small compared to equired effort, reward only monetary while other areas of live are badly neglected etc.). The friction in doing the thing may be your subconscious yelling at you: &quot;wtf are you doing, stop, this isn&#x27;t good for us&quot;.
eimrine大约 2 年前
Reminders - using apps, timers, or other means to remind us of the new behavior<p>Records - keeping track of our behavior throughout the day<p>Rewards - giving ourselves positive reinforcement for engaging in a behavior<p>Routines - building the new behavior around an existing daily habit<p>Relationships - finding a friend to do the new behavior with, or who you can talk to about the progress you’re making<p>Reflecting - taking time to reflect on the progress you’re making through journaling, discussion with a friend, or in your mind<p>Restructuring - making changes to the environment to make it easier to do the new behavior – i.e., throwing out unhealthy food or preparing at night for a morning run
jerrygoyal大约 2 年前
&gt; In my coaching practice in the present, I try to cultivate these qualities in how I show up with a client. When I notice my mind getting overly analytical or wanting to say something clever, I try to come back to the intention to be loving and playful.<p>I don&#x27;t agree with this mindset. being &quot;loving and playful&quot; doesn&#x27;t solve client&#x27;s problems.
Madmallard大约 2 年前
I don&#x27;t really think there&#x27;s any shortcuts one can do to adopt self-discipline. I think it is born out of serious changes in ones life if it wasn&#x27;t already taught and adopted at a younger age.
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ge96大约 2 年前
When I got my first w2 web dev job I had to ride a bike 3 hrs everyday, not as a cyclist either, had a pos bike. I did it because I had to.<p>I still have hard things to overcome.
quijoteuniv大约 2 年前
Looks interesting, the pitfall (as with most frameworks) is ending trying to put yourself out of the swamp by pulling yourself from the hair.
hoseja大约 2 年前
Yeah sorry, couldn&#x27;t get through the sub-header. What an awful sequence of words.
phemartin大约 2 年前
Read with me: <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;youtu.be&#x2F;3tJjHCzy8Sg" rel="nofollow">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;youtu.be&#x2F;3tJjHCzy8Sg</a>
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