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How too much daydreaming affected me

213 点作者 SunghoYahng将近 2 年前

33 条评论

zer0tonin将近 2 年前
I actually experienced this during my late childhood and teenage years. I would say between age 8-16.<p>I think the main cause was actually under-stimulation: I was both very socially reclusive, and bored to death by schoolwork. I would guess that my brain was trying to compensate for the lack of social life and things to do by making up people and scenarios were stuff actually happens.<p>This tendency to constantly daydream faded away as I gained independance and entered adulthood. Since I had more stuff to do and more people to talk to. It kinda re-appeared during the 2020-2021 lockdowns, since boredom came back. I think I had almost forgot how it felt to intensely daydream at that point.
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vishkk将近 2 年前
a little romanticizing:<p>“Just as some people work because they’re bored, I sometimes write because I have nothing to say. Daydreaming, which occurs naturally to people when they’re not thinking, in me takes written form, for I know how to dream in prose. And there are many sincere feelings and much genuine emotion that I extract from not feeling”<p>- Fernando Pessoa<p>“I hesitate in everything, often without knowing why. How often I’ve sought – as my own version of the straight line, seeing it in my mind as the ideal straight line – the longest distance between two points. I’ve never had a knack for the active life. I’ve always taken wrong steps that no one else takes; I’ve always had to make an effort to do what comes naturally to other people. I’ve always wanted to achieve what others have achieved almost without wanting it. Between me and life there were always sheets of frosted glass that I couldn’t tell were there by sight or by touch; I didn’t live that life or that dimension. I was the daydream of what I wanted to be, and my dreaming began in my will: my goals were always the first fiction of what I never was.”<p>Fernando Pessoa
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yasman将近 2 年前
The Jungians have much to say about daydreams. It is an active form on exploration on topics the subconscious is wrestling with. They have techniques to induce and explore daydreams in a directed way.<p>“Inner Work” by Robert Johnson is a very approachable text. It focuses on using two technologies for personal growth: dream analysis and active imagination (basically day dreaming but you write it down and have a convo with your subconscious).<p>He warns the imagination one if you really get into it can be all consuming. Reminds me of MD as this guy is going thru it.<p>Might be worth talking to a Jungian therapist (or any therapist really). A Jungian might want to lean more onto the day dreaming to uncover a message if there is one as opposed to trying to “manage it”.<p>I daydreamed heavily when I was younger. A combination of isolation and ways to process hormones and unresolved trauma - what I discover many years later.
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konaraddi将近 2 年前
I hope OP checks out “Yes, you can cure Maladaptive Daydreaming” - <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;wildminds.ning.com&#x2F;m&#x2F;discussion?id=4661400%3ATopic%3A201335" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;wildminds.ning.com&#x2F;m&#x2F;discussion?id=4661400%3ATopic%3...</a><p>Some things that have helped a close friend get in the groove of staying present and reduce the frequency and duration of daydreaming: trying to meditate, focusing on the breath to stay present, making an effort to notice when they’re daydreaming and <i>politely</i> telling themselves things to the effect of “come back, the real world is here, not there”, and actively pursuing something interesting (because it’s hard to say no to an addiction unless there’s an engaging substitute).
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weinzierl将近 2 年前
When I was at my first bigger class reunion we visited our old school. Most things had changed - schools are more living creatures than buildings apparently.<p>I sat down at my old place in the classroom and looked out the window. When I saw the old tree in front of it, it immediately struck me:<p>How many hours must I have spent watching this tree and while dreaming away utterly bored by what was happening around me.
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brachika将近 2 年前
I never experienced the level of immersiveness of the author, but I did daydream quite a lot all the way into my early 20s. I would completely ignore my professors during my classes, I would talk with myself when I walked home, I would dissociate myself from reality imagining all kinds of different scenarios.<p>How I solved this? Well, not by myself. One of the topics of my daydreams was this girl that I was infatuated with. Long story short, we somehow get together, I realize that our relationship wasn&#x27;t exactly going on the way I imagined it, we break up, I go through quite a depressive, suicidal period, I lose most of my friends. Completely unrelated, two years after I had to do a surgery which kinda grounded me more into reality. Since then, I rarely daydream, it is like my imaginary world was shattered by this moment. It is like I finally &#x27;grew&#x27;.
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jwx48将近 2 年前
Whoa, this takes me back to 2nd grade when I did almost nothing but daydream during class. My daydreams were elaborate science fiction. I got in a lot of trouble for it, both with my parents and the (substitute) teacher. The teacher ended up paddling me for doing it, which was a terrible punishment for being so far ahead of my peers[0] that I had to find a way to compensate.<p>--- [0] I need to be very specific here: I do <i>not</i> think I was smarter than my classmates, or some special genius. I had just been afforded more of an educational foundation by that point in time.
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scyzoryk_xyz将近 2 年前
This sounds like a chunk of what I experience on a regular basis, used to be more intense (now in my 30’s).<p>I know many creatives&#x2F;artists who harness such traits to their advantage. I suspect more people experience reality like this than would openly admit. This is what I understand as “privacy” in my own way.<p>ADHD was my diagnosis, what I learned is that for everyone with the disorder a completely different set of traits manifest themselves. Different experiences lead to different coping strategies, which in turn develop different personalities and values depending on the experiences with success&#x2F;failures&#x2F;traumas. Because of this treatments vary. For some it’s medication, for others it’s something else. Treatment is a big word too - what if along with the things you don’t like there are parts that make you who you are. You don’t want “treatment” to kill those off.
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jkingsman将近 2 年前
&gt; Two theories are popular among the MD community. One attributes MD to a lack of emotional nurturing in childhood, leading to issues in emotional expressivity. It advocates emotional engagement with real life as a potential solution. The second theory suggests that daydream immersion is an innate trait and MD develops when people with this trait become addicted to daydreaming due to unfortunate real-life circumstances.<p>I&#x27;m surprised not to see consideration of this as a biochemical phenomenon (beyond the reductive &quot;everything in the brain is biochemical&quot;) -- I wonder if an anatomical or signal&#x2F;chemical oddity could put someone in a state where they&#x27;re predisposed to switch on the dreaming&#x2F;imagining circuits in the middle of tasks, almost like a very odd flavor of narcolepsy (which, among other causes, is commonly associated with the immune system destroying cells that produce a likely wakefulness-signalling protein).
adamwong246将近 2 年前
I find it weird that the writer wrote so much without saying, precisely, the nature of the day-dreams. Perhaps not so much Maladaptive Daydreaming as Maladaptive Living? If these thoughts consume you, maybe you need to make a more tangible change in your life than pathologizing your own thoughts. Don&#x27;t dream it, be it, you know?
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richardjam73将近 2 年前
Maybe instead it is a form of dissociation? Your mind just wants to go elsewhere to avoid something.
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eyelidlessness将近 2 年前
&gt; Does this sound like masked ADHD? I asked myself the same question. However, after cycling through numerous ADHD treatment protocols - from extensive therapies to high-dosage medications - my cognitive acuity remained unaltered, and there was no tangible progression. It felt akin to executing null operations in a code.<p>&gt; Interestingly, the MD paradox points towards an unintended consequence of ADHD treatment - it could potentially amplify daydreaming, a peculiar side-effect I noticed while medicated with methylphenidate. In essence, ADHD medication might turbocharge MD.<p>This isn’t a paradox, and it doesn’t necessarily rule out ADHD as an underlying cause&#x2F;exacerbating factor. Hyperfocus is a common ADHD symptom; said hyperfocus can be fixated on just about anything, yes even daydreaming; stimulants used to treat ADHD symptoms like <i>lack of focus</i> can reinforce unwanted hyperfocus, it’s an unfortunate side effect.
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rg111将近 2 年前
I had, and to some degree still have this daydreaming &quot;problem&quot;. But it didn’t really affect me in any significant way. Pomodoro helps while working&#x2F;learning.<p>Social Media was a much bigger problem for me. Which I got rid of after reading Deep Work.<p>And I, from my childhood have had, what is often called &quot;directional disorientation&quot;. Everyone who knows me considers me smart, I have achievements to demonstrate that. But, I can never remember how to navigate to an address. It takes me about 6-7 times navigating via Google Maps before I can visit it without Maps.<p>I am sometimes confused about some streets of my home town!<p>I don&#x27;t have problem focusing for longer times. I can work hard and learn quickly, but familiarity with physical spaces has always eluded me.<p>Edit: Over the years, I have talked with at least half a dozen people on the internet who told me that they believe that they have this <i>thing</i>, if it <i>is</i> a <i>thing</i>.
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petercooper将近 2 年前
Maybe it&#x27;s not the same but I daydream quite deeply when I&#x27;m doing things that have no verbal component. So like when I&#x27;m driving, I&#x27;ll start planning stuff out and coming up with ideas (often quite visually, too) then &quot;snap&quot; back and think.. I don&#x27;t remember any of the actual driving. It&#x27;s common enough to have a name though – <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Highway_hypnosis" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;en.wikipedia.org&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Highway_hypnosis</a> – and I haven&#x27;t had any accidents. Curiously, putting on talk radio or podcasts helps as it prevents the daydreaming.
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whywhywhywhy将近 2 年前
Just want to actually dream a lot lately to be honest. Find myself wasting a up to at least lunchtime on a Saturday if I get the type of sleep that gives consecutive dreams.
jancsika将近 2 年前
&gt; This immersive daydreaming often pulls me out of reality&#x27;s context.<p>Rankly speculating-- there&#x27;s some <i>extremely painful</i> emotion the author is avoiding by opting for daydream over engaging with whatever is going on in reality.<p>Edit: perhaps not 100% of the daydreams. I mean, sometimes humans really are bored. But it&#x27;s very likely in some of these contexts, the author has a decent idea of what they want to do in reality and are specifically avoiding it to avoid some painful emotion that goes with whatever potential negative consequence could come from their action.<p>With this many daydreams that are this disruptive, seems very likely they&#x27;re protecting the author from something. (Or they protected the child version of the author and continue their &quot;job&quot; of protecting into adulthood where they&#x27;ve become a hindrance.)
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anon7331将近 2 年前
I suffer from this and have for as long as I can remember (at least started around ~17). In the article he never mentioned his triggers, but it&#x27;s important to figure out what they are.<p>For me, the primary trigger is music (both audio and video). If I am listening to it, the day dreaming kicks in and it&#x27;s too much to handle. As a software engineer this is a pain in the ass to say the least...<p>The only thing to help me was completely cutting off my triggers. I had to cut out music completely as well as remove Youtube from my workflow (no music, podcasts, passive listening, etc). I had to make additional cuts to other triggers as well... the only thing that helps is a complete cut off.<p>Edit: I recommend buying some ear plugs and using those instead of headphones or airpods...
qez2将近 2 年前
What I experience is different and less extreme than the author. But I learned, just now, that I have a mental condition. It even has it&#x27;s own name, and it&#x27;s not just a variant of ADD.<p>Or at least I did. My symptoms lessened gradually over the years as I got older. I had it much less at 22 years old compared to 12 years old.<p>But I wouldn&#x27;t have it differently. My mind wandering is (or was) the most important thing about me, and constitute who I am. I wouldn&#x27;t want to become a different person. Then again, it doesn&#x27;t take me an hour to change clothes.
anjc将近 2 年前
Is daydreaming as maladaptive as it&#x27;s presented? For me it&#x27;s more like scenario planning than nonsense dreaming. Even if 90% is fruitless, 10% have fed into real life decisions that have had real life outcomes.<p>An extreme example is that &quot;call of the void&quot; feeling one gets when standing beside a large drop. Is it daydreaming to engage with this feeling in this scenario, or is it an intuitive way to reinforce positive decisions?
mrangle将近 2 年前
Masked ADHD? Just ADHD. There is no progression. Meds are unreliable. Moreover, my opinion is that this particular place on the spectrum is where ADHD and Asperger&#x27;s meet. Stated differently, the puzzle of ADHD-PI may be that it is instead a symptom of (sometimes very high functioning) autism.
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vsareto将近 2 年前
This regularly happened to me in adulthood, but Vyvanse cleared it up for me (for as long as it’s active).
atlantic将近 2 年前
I noticed that you&#x27;re not engaging with the content of your daydreams. You&#x27;re basically treating them as a medical problem. The more you ignore your unconscious, the more noise it makes, to try and get your attention. You need to start a dialogue.
SteveDR将近 2 年前
My tool for this kind of problem in my own life has been writing lyrics &#x2F; poetry. Poetry is nice because you don’t need to close any loops or structure a beginning, middle, and end. You just drop in, spit up some words that convey the core thought, and leave.
stuckinhell将近 2 年前
This sounds like something happened to my deceased brother. He was a very very lonely person, and I&#x27;m pretty sure his daydreams were a coping mechanism.<p>I wish I could have shaken him out of it.
Bluescreenbuddy将近 2 年前
Holy fuck, this is me now. They put me on ritalin in December and I don&#x27;t feel like I&#x27;ve made any progress but the day dreaming feels like it got &quot;worse&quot;
mashygpig将近 2 年前
OP, have any doctors mentioned that it may be epilepsy? Seizures present in many ways and can sometimes be described as dreamlike experiences. Might be worth asking about.
TastyAmphibian将近 2 年前
I literally do this everyday in the office. I get lost in the previous moments which drug my work. This may probably be attribute to me being alone in the office?
kpw94将近 2 年前
How much do you listen to music?<p>Read somewhere that listening to music can trigger MD, is that the case for you? (Do you get less MD if you don&#x27;t listen to music that day?)
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hu3将近 2 年前
Obligatory material about daydreaming by a psychiatrist:<p>- Why Day Dreams Get In Your Way (33 minutes): <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.youtube.com&#x2F;watch?v=2Gw6gLBPvA8">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.youtube.com&#x2F;watch?v=2Gw6gLBPvA8</a><p>- Your Constant Daydreaming Can Be Hurting Your Mental Health (42 minutes): <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.youtube.com&#x2F;watch?v=YUSi9tzdNiE">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;www.youtube.com&#x2F;watch?v=YUSi9tzdNiE</a>
soulofmischief将近 2 年前
&gt; My daydreaming isn&#x27;t merely a passive pastime. It interrupts my daily tasks, making conspicuous appearances. Often, I find myself vocalizing thoughts, not as a narration of my actions, but broadcasting the intricate details of my daydreams. I often find myself taking spontaneous walks, even breaking into a run sometimes. Might seem like random movements, but it&#x27;s my vivid daydreams pulling the strings. I can suddenly burst into laughter or find myself pacing in circles.<p>Well I feel seen today. At times in my youth I seriously questioned whether I had schizophrenia... but I never developed the symptoms.<p>What I do have seems to be a mixture of OCD-related intrusive thoughts and a serious problem with daydreaming&#x2F;dissociation that severe ADHD thus far has seemed to acceptably explain. But ADHD doesn&#x27;t explain the deep daydreaming and sudden talking out loud, entire days spent in a catatonic state, etc.<p>&gt; For instance, remembering routes or even simple details like the layout of a frequently visited place demands active processing from me<p>People have definitely commented on my trouble remembering recently taken routes... always just hard to know how common this. A general sense of navigation seems to make up for it but it takes many, many trips for me to not get lost when I move to a new location.<p>&gt; Even simple tasks, which involve a few steps (like taking medicine or changing clothes), can turn into a time-consuming endeavor due to the interruptions caused by daydreaming<p>Most definitely, and again the presence of ADHD makes this difficult to isolate and understand. I mean, all of these these are definitely potential symptoms of ADHD. It just seems to not be the usual case for people I meet with ADHD. It becomes extremely difficult making friends, even ones with ADHD, understand what I go through. Most write it off as me being dramatic about everyday experiences that everyone has, not understanding the acute or chronic nature of the symptoms.<p>A friend recently told me I paid too much attention to diagnoses, but I have had these diagnoses for my entire life and they affect me in such an extreme way that the only progress I have made has been with deep, thorough medical research about my conditions. Even past childhood therapists totally misunderstood these conditions and sometimes made things worse.<p>&gt; Similarly, changing clothes can take more than an hour. Sometimes, I don&#x27;t manage to complete the task at all.<p>Yeah, and for me at least there is often an element of PTSD from childhood and early adulthood trauma which guides these daydreams, and it honestly sounds like the case for the author here, if I had to wager a guess I&#x27;d assume most of these daydreams are rooted in either some kind of direct trauma, or a some desire which is propelled by a hidden underlying trauma.<p>&gt; For clarity, it&#x27;s important to underline that MD-affected individuals can clearly differentiate between reality and daydreams.<p>Unfortunately, my experience has been that trying to relate the experience of compulsive daydreaming or other extreme facets of ADHD only come across as unhinged to others, especially when you mention things like the radio in your brain you just cannot turn off which interrupts every other thought, or how you might randomly laugh or respond out loud to an imagined conversation in your head.<p>For my part, I am a lifelong lucid dreamer with the ability to modify my dreams, and also suffer from frequent sleep paralysis. In general I have had extreme insomnia my entire life, which leads to a false sort of narcolepsy throughout the day. Last night I got maybe an hour of sleep in total, 10 minute increments followed by an hour of tossing and turning in between. I would be surprised if these things are not all related.<p>Stress also definitely seems to affect this condition. This past week has been immensely stressful and I spent several hours today on my floor just totally in another world.
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polynomial将近 2 年前
Can someone tldr this? I feel like the author is grappling with a huge avoidance issue but the language is unfamiliar so I may be missing some context.
treeman79将近 2 年前
Get some audiobooks. Epic fantasy &#x2F; sci-fi or whatever. See how you are doing tasks when a good portion of your mind is preoccupied.<p>I’m probably 20x faster since it stops the day dreaming.
barrysteve将近 2 年前
It&#x27;s possible to imagine forever until you hit a brick wall. Objective fact, atheistic aggression and &#x27;keeping it real&#x27; used to be exit doors for daydreaming.<p>We don&#x27;t do any of that anymore. It has helped me to study the effects of electronics on the nervous system. Many of our automatic behaviours can be supercharged by electronics.
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