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The Real Question Behind 'What Do You Want?'

80 点作者 lopespm将近 2 年前

14 条评论

keiferski将近 2 年前
From the article:<p><i>Given that lengthy lists are unachievable, they need to be slimmed down to a manageable and realistic size.</i><p>I was reading Ted Turner’s biography yesterday and this advice by his father stood out to me:<p><i>[Turner’s father] was having a really tough time reevaluating things and coming up with a plan for the rest of his life. He then told me something I&#x27;ve never forgotten. He said, &quot;Son, you be sure to set your goals so high that you can&#x27;t possibly accomplish them in one lifetime. That way you&#x27;ll always have something ahead of you. I made the mistake of setting my goals too low and now I&#x27;m having a hard time coming up with new ones.”</i><p>His father ended up dying early and right in the midst of trying to sell his company out of fear, which the son Ted Turner wanted to run.<p>I think his father was basically right in that you shouldn’t set limits on your goals, as you just might achieve them all and not know what to do with yourself. Getting stuck in a local maximum is a very real risk for most people.<p>It’s better to adopt a mindset that accepts the fact that you won’t quite get everything you want, but what you do get will be vastly more than if you had just settled and “sacrificed for”, to use the author’s term. It’s more of a process-oriented outlook than a goal-achievement one.
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ergonaught将近 2 年前
&quot;What are you willing to sacrifice?&quot;<p>Framing it this way poisons everything downstream of it.<p>It&#x27;s unfortunate if the author believes &quot;that&quot; is the &quot;real question&quot;, but they have plenty of company in self-induced psychological damage of this variety, and thanks to the wonders of modern technology can amplify that damage and share its wonders with billions of people.
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thevania将近 2 年前
interesting, i never understood the concept of &quot;want&quot;-ing anything<p>the last time i can remember that i wanted something was when i was a little kid and i wanted a toy radio, my mum bought it for me and later got &quot;problems&quot; at home because of that as we were poor and it was &quot;expensive&quot;, after that i felt bad for wanting it<p>that was the last time i can remember i ever wanted anything<p>similar for goals - when i was a teenager i set an ambitious goal for myself to get a prestigious industry certification before finishing high-school, i thought that it will make me happy, but the moment i achieved it - i felt exactly nothing, that was the last time i set a goal for myself<p>not sure i am weird - but the question &quot;what do you want&quot; sounds silly to me, why would you want anything at all? it wont bring you happiness when you have the biggest truck or house on the street, or when you sell your company for a lot of money or when you get a professorship or whatever other goal you might set for yourself, ask yourself do you really feel joy and happiness when you get there &#x2F; achieve it?<p>do what is right every time a situation calls for it, never take the &quot;easy path&quot; - this way you will never have any regrets, because you simply couldn&#x27;t do more &#x2F; better<p>reading this you might conclude then - ok that sounds like a pretty sad life - so let me add that instead of wanting things, where i found joy and happiness is in doing &quot;good deeds&quot; - try helping someone, make them smile, make their day better and see how will that make you feel, similarly in my professional life - i decided to focus only on what i enjoy and that is solving problems, the harder the challenge the better it makes me feel - the thrill that we are onto something and once one challenge is done i move to another and i feel again alive - that i have a purpose and couldn&#x27;t possibly be more helpful &#x2F; create more &quot;good&quot; in any other way
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Nevermark将近 2 年前
Everything, everywhere, everywhen; right here, right now, forever.<p>It’s a first principle guide, like the North Star or a stable feature on the horizon when you are hiking a substantial distance.<p>Of course I have to walk that first principle back, but I feel like super long term thinking is a pretty good guide.<p>Pretending I have infinite time, but want everything as soon as I can get it, motivates me to attack the most difficult problems I can, that would make the most difference.<p>These tend to be problems whose solutions help other people too.<p>We are only 13.8 billion years old! There are only 8 billion of us. So much future space and time, with so much to learn and do!
falcor84将近 2 年前
Am I the only one here who was disappointed that the post didn&#x27;t directly reference Babylon 5&#x27;s Mr. Morden? [0]<p>[0] <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;babylon5.fandom.com&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Morden#What_Do_You_Want%3F" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;babylon5.fandom.com&#x2F;wiki&#x2F;Morden#What_Do_You_Want%3F</a><p>EDIT: Fixed the URL encoding of the question mark
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netsharc将近 2 年前
[Paragraph self-censored because it was mean]<p>TL; DR if I get it right: &quot;What do you want&quot; means &quot;What are you willing to sacrifice?&quot;. Is this meant to be deep?<p>On the topic of HN guidelines: Please don&#x27;t use HN primarily for promotion. It&#x27;s ok to post your own stuff part of the time, but the primary use of the site should be for curiosity.
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travisjungroth将近 2 年前
I believe this is useful for the author. I think the technique involves a bit of cognitive dissonance and I personally try to minimize that. Stresses me out.<p>&gt; … it is easy to make lists of everything one wants …<p>&gt; The real question behind defining [sic?] <i>knowing what we want</i> is actually <i>what we are willing to sacrifice</i>.<p>“Want” gets redefined somewhere between the first and second to last paragraph. Sacrifice isn’t actually inherent to the want list.<p>I imagine part of power of this technique is that you’re leading yourself to believe that you don’t want the things off the list. Maybe if you’re convincing enough you actually don’t? I’d be interested in what the author would think about the things on the first list and off the final draft. Do they still want them?<p>I don’t know. In writing this out, it may be less dissonance and more conversion. I think I’d like to try this out. For myself, I just want to be sure I don’t act like I never wanted those things in the first place. More like saying goodbye to them.<p>Or maybe it’s like team tryouts? You can want 100 players on your team. But there are also the 25 players you really want, that get their name on the short list.
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slowmovintarget将近 2 年前
&gt; The real question behind defining <i>knowing what we want</i> is actually <i>what we are willing to sacrifice</i>. Once the latter is defined and we are 100% convinced about it, then knowing what we want is bullet proof and easy to follow through.<p>&gt; What are you willing to sacrifice?<p>Context is goal-setting.
abhaynayar将近 2 年前
&gt; Prioritization is an euphemism for sacrificing.<p>Just because you have to choose between things you can possibly have, does not mean you are sacrificing the thing you don&#x27;t choose. You can&#x27;t sacrifice something you don&#x27;t have. And I guess its a nitpick on one&#x27;s definition of sacrifice, so just saying that this is my subjective opinion.<p>A way I like to put it is: everything has pros and cons, and you have to decide what cons you are willing to put up with, given that the pros are close enough.
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DavidPiper将近 2 年前
&gt; At the start of each year, I produce a small list of 3 to 4 high priority goals and 1 optional low priority goal of what I want to achieve by end of it<p>This inadvertently made me realise that I am one of those people who will 100% start with the low priority goal because, in this framing, it&#x27;s likely to be easier and more achievable.<p>Which is totally not the point. Thank you, Pedro, for the possibly life-changing behaviour nudge.
cfiggers将近 2 年前
This blog post is only half of the way to the more valuable and broadly applicable abstraction that is available here, which is about prioritization in general. It goes like this:<p>It&#x27;s far more actionable (and therefore higher value) to know what is NOT high priority than it is to know how exactly one&#x27;s highest priorities rank relative to one another.
thyrsus将近 2 年前
Before reading the article, I imagined myself asking that question, and it was the rude or exasperated version of &quot;What must I do for you?&quot; (to make you stop bugging me). The polite or generous version is &quot;What can I do for you?&quot;. I&#x27;m lucky enough that I get to ask the latter far more frequently than the former.
tzot将近 2 年前
If one can absolutely prioritize their “wants” (no “want” has equal rank with any other), then any choice between two of them is simple: choose the higher ranked and “sacrifice” the lower one, right?
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grrdotcloud将近 2 年前
Shane answers this in Primer <a href="https:&#x2F;&#x2F;youtu.be&#x2F;-vD-yj9o664" rel="nofollow noreferrer">https:&#x2F;&#x2F;youtu.be&#x2F;-vD-yj9o664</a>