There's surprisingly little research on relationship disorders, in particular, in the area of dating.<p>If Gilmartin (who I think was the first to research the involutary celibate more formally) were more rigorous and/or if psychologists would have have extracted the good points and developed them, today we'd likely have a better (or at least, better prepared) society. Sadly, Gilmartin is partially reponsible for turning to the topic from something taboo-ish into a laughing stock.<p>It also seems that some people here don't know - modern acception of "incel" is, confusingly, more specific than "involuntary celibates"; it refers to an online, tendentially misogynistic, subculture of involuntary celibates.<p>If some readers here identify themselves with people with serious relationship disorders, seek a therapist - this disorder can be impossible to heal without professional services.