> "A lot of men are lonely because they lack the ability to put emotions into words, which makes it hard for them to form relationships," Levant says. "The inability to put their emotions into words leads to failures in relationships, leads to loneliness, leads to their seeking out these experiences."<p>I'm glad men are seeking this stuff out, and it's a lot more thought out than it was a decade ago. However, this lens quoted above views men as an inferior form of woman and it's too patronizing to engage.<p>What's missing are meaningful rites of passage. Degrees don't do it anymore because the people who get and confer them aren't peers. I sympathize because there is almost nothing men have traditionally done to distinguish themselves where today there isn't a woman calling herself a girl imitating it with a film crew for instagram, and the underlying message is, "this does not distinguish or provide dignity for you anymore because a girl can do it." There are no honest signals of capability. With the diluting of sports and other pursuits, as men our options are reduced to muscle and money, with some credentials that might secure us an institutional job as a distant third. You need at least one, two and you're laughing, all three and you're into mythical territory.<p>We're a tournament species, and men need a way to sort ourselves. The men in this article are looking for a way to distinguish themselves among peers.