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Not feeling like I belong anywhere

24 点作者 dostoynikov超过 1 年前

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dijit超过 1 年前
Hey Dostoynikov,<p>theres no real answer here, but I will share with you some solidarity.<p>It can be comforting to believe that moving around a lot is a source of your loneliness and lack of belonging, I am here to tell you that unfortunately you can have that feeling even if you stay in one city as I did.<p>What I have found has worked for me is finding external groups that transcend physical proximity. In the early 00’s I joined an IRC net and throughout my teens and 20’s it was, at times, my only support.<p>It got me through multiple country moves and friend group resets.<p>However, one thing that is your superpower now: you have had the means to reinvent yourself and wipe your slate clean many times over. You might find that you don&#x27;t feel that you belong anywhere but you fit in most places, and thats a very important first step into feeling belonging.
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yogorenapan超过 1 年前
This really resonates with me. I have never stayed in the same place for more than 3 years my entire life and also haven’t been able to form any long term friendships.<p>With all the moving, I’ve pretty much lost my ability to care for people. The scariest part was realizing I no longer felt any sense of family after being made to stay with strangers for 2 years between age 10-12.<p>I still don’t know how to cope, or perhaps have no need to cope. I know something is wrong with me but feel no need to fix it.
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throwaway38937超过 1 年前
You get conscious about plugging into or creating community, and you don’t wait around for it to happen. That’s a skill that can be developed. You pay attention to how things are done differently, take notes, and try to be ready to incorporate the best of all worlds.<p>And hopefully you learn to appreciate all the incredible advantages to be had in staying somewhere longer. At least that’s how I feel, moving between 7 different cities in the last 10 years.
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devwastaken超过 1 年前
On a rock flying through space in a solar system flying around a black hole that is moving towards some other larger part of space - what is belonging?<p>&quot;belonging&quot;, to me, is a human phenomenon that doesn&#x27;t need much. We want to have our human experience shared, for our existence to be validated. It&#x27;s so tied to nature that people have bars they frequent as they drown in alcoholism.<p>The interesting part about it is that many feel this way, especially in a modern world that is at odds with the old one. How can so many be disconnected yet wanting to connect?<p>I have found that all of society is based on the premise of building it when it didn&#x27;t exist yet. Just the same we can create our belonging, and that&#x27;s the scary part.
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000ooo000超过 1 年前
It&#x27;s easy: I don&#x27;t